Ten Reasons Why You Shouldn't Get Your S**t Together

  1. You might not be done sowing your wild oats. You have a few “I Don’t Give A Shit About You But Let’s Get Physical” sexual experiences left in you because you don’t want to be responsible for anyone’s feelings but your own. And since you don’t know what you want, you might as well find out what you don’t want.
  2. There’s something oddly satisfying about burning the candle at both ends. Leading a functional life while everything around you is a hot mess can sometimes feel like the greatest achievement. “How many nights can I spend fucked up while still getting straight A’s or performing well at my job? I don’t know but let’s find out!” It’s a thrill to tear at the pieces of your life while maintaining a semblance of normalcy. It’s sort of a “fuck you” to everything you learned growing up too. You’re going to do bad things and still do really well at this whole life thing. Take that, DARE!
  3. There’s beauty in the chaos. Your apartment is a rotating door of friends, parties, and music. People come in and feel like they’ve entered wonderland. Every day is a new glamorous adventure. Routine isn’t for you yet.
  4. You want to take advantage of every precious moment of your youth. You want to say “yes” more than “no.” No midlife crisis for you! You exhausted every facet of being young. You soaked it all up. The ones who were wound so tight in their twenties are the ones who go crazy later anyway. When would you like to be insane? 23 or 46 with two kids?
  5. You don’t want to do what everyone else is doing. Screw the invisible pressure to conform and have this or that by the time you hit a certain age. You’ll experience things when you want to experience them. If you’re happy, that should be all that matters.
  6. You open yourself up to more opportunities and people. By having no set rules for your life, quite possibly anything can happen. Although this can be scary and backfire, it can also be liberating.
  7. Your life is good. You have good friends and lovers. Everything seems like it is in its right place. So why would you go and change it just because someone else doesn’t understand it? People have a fixed idea of what’s right and what’s wrong. There is also an inflexible definition of success and people are quick to look down on others who aren’t fitting the mold. The irony is that your friend who works as a barista, sleeps with a lovely assortment of people, and gets stoned before watching Intervention might be happier than you—the young professional with a dog.
  8. It’s important to be a disaster for awhile. People love to get high so they can sink low and bring themselves back up again. They like not having their shit together so that when they actually do, they can say things like, “Remember those insane nights we had in college? Those were the daze!”
  9. Getting fucked up is fun until it’s not. Have your beautiful moment in the wasted sun and enjoy every moment of it. Just leave before you get a sunburn.
  10. The second best thing to being a 20-something survivor is to be a 20-something nightmare! Thought Catalog Logo Mark
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