Chivalry is the place where the cliches of damsel in distress and knight in shining armor were born. It is also the place where they should go to die. Chivalry is what I would do for people I love, friends I care for. It is not and should not be gender specific, its historical roots notwithstanding.
Spending too much time trying to avoid being even remotely useful or productive can sometimes have surprising ancillary benefits.