It’s Okay To Want To Be Alone
The unresolved daily traffic jam. The monotony of an eight-to-five office job. Endless paperwork with deadlines that forces you on overtime. A demanding and tyrannical superior. Peer pressure. Family problems. Life can usually be awfully tough. It can sometimes be frustrating and tiring, not to mention, discouraging.
But life, as one saying goes—with all its harsh realities—won’t go away because we want it to. What we have to do is learn to get through the bad times with the right attitude. The most common human misconception is having the bravado and self-confidence of being ideal to the fullest—ignoring the fact that we are just humans, and like the song goes—born to make mistakes.
When it’s our bodies and minds that forces us to clock in—committing mistakes, brings us to sickness or makes us feel ineffective—it only meant one thing: we need to stop even for a bit and smell the roses.
Realign, recharge, reboot.
When our system starts to malfunction, especially during these modern times where almost everything keep going 24/7—it is easier to become overly stressed, irritated and weary. Truly, time is gold. We usually have so much to do, in so little time.
In a fast-paced world like ours, a few moments by yourself is valuable.
A Nobel-prize winner once said, “I love people. I love my family, my children…but inside myself is a place where I live all alone and that’s where you renew your springs that never dry up.”
It is a given fact that humans are social animals, but it is in solitude that we can truly be in tune with what is essential. When someone keeps bugging you about something, paperwork keep pouring in, e-mails and text messages needed to be answered urgently, or the phone that won’t stop ringing—even the bathroom can be the nearest, dearest refuge. Taking a few moments in the bathroom alone can help you renew your spirit and unclutter your mind. Time may be the most fundamental element in your everyday life, but taking even just an hour of thoughtful solitude either by locking yourself in a quiet room or just by walking (or jogging) alone in silence, definitely helps us unload unnecessary burden clogging our minds.
But survival in the hustle and bustle of the street we call life, one will need to consider other measures beside lavatory confinement. Learn to decline. Refuse. Say no. Stick to the reality that you don’t have all the time in the world. It is much wiser to avoid people and situations that suck the life out of you.
Sometimes, disconnection is as necessary as connection.
Forcing yourself to connect to others against your true will creates faithless and indignant relationships. Letting go of unworthy associations sets us free from a lot of negative emotions. The same applies with other things, such as work.
Do not wait until the negative energies in your mind and body are already neck-deep. Listen to the little reminders of how you overload yourself. It is not like everything you’ve worked hard for would come crashing down just because you decided to take a little time out. Every person needs a moment alone.