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Don’t Date If You’re Still Healing From A Past Heartbreak

Don’t date if you’re still hurting. I know you might think it’s been a long time and that you should’ve healed by now, but unfortunately you haven’t. So you might think that just because it’s been a long time means that you should be back in the game anyway, but it doesn’t.

Everyone heals at their own pace. There’s no such thing as ”it’s been too long”; you shouldn’t just hop back into dating. If you’re still hurting, then you’re hurting—don’t deny this truth. Don’t force yourself into getting into a relationship that you can’t handle at the moment. Don’t force yourself into it just because people around you might be telling you it’s taking you too long to get over the last one.

Don’t get yourself into a new relationship to prove that you are done with your previous one or because of the pressure of other people’s opinions over how much time it should take you to heal. This is something that’s entirely up to you. Make sure to take all the time you need, even if you feel like it’s a bit longer than what you expected. Make sure that you don’t rush into something while you still have an open wound deep inside you. Give yourself the time you need to feel ready.

You owe it to yourself to give yourself that time, no matter how long it takes. The thing is, when you get hurt badly or heartbroken, it changes you. It changes the way you look at things. It changes the way you deal with others and it changes your perspective about love, and you just need to give yourself time to process all that.

One of the worst things you could do is start dating instead of actually healing yourself first when you need it the most. You never really know what damages or hurt you might cause to anyone else while you are still in pain yourself. That’s why you need to take your time till you feel like you are ready emotionally to try again, to trust again, and to love again.

Wait till you feel that you are not scared to open up to someone or to give someone your love again. Wait till you feel completely healed. There’s no rush, there’s no deadline for healing, and there’s no pressure whatsoever on when you should be ready. Take your time and go at your own pace.

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