Never Allow Yourself To Be Defined By Someone’s Opinion Of You

When I was little, I used to be so affected by people’s opinions and what they said about me. So, whenever someone would tell me that I was not good enough at something, I would instantly believe them, and whenever someone would tell me the complete opposite, I would go ahead and change my mind and start to believe that I was actually good enough instead. But little did I know back then that no one had any say in this but me and that I can’t just keep on listening to other people’s opinions about me and forget to listen to my own opinion about myself.

I realized that most of my life I just kept letting myself be defined by what others think of me while completely disregarding my own opinion about myself. I never stopped for a moment to try to see myself through my own eyes.

What I didn’t know back then is that people will always have an opinion about you, no matter what. Some might tell you how boring you are while others might tell you how interesting you are. Some might tell you how amazing and perfect you are while others might keep on pointing out your flaws. But after a really long time of listening to people and what they think of you, you just realize at the end of the day that it doesn’t matter what they think. It doesn’t matter if you’re interesting enough for them or not, whether you’re pretty enough for them or not. You realize that what truly matters is what you think of yourself.

The most important opinion was yours all along. Once you understand that, you free yourself. You just stop looking for constant validation and reassurances about yourself from other people, because no matter how hard you try, you will never find them; you can only find them deep within yourself.

That’s why I vowed to myself that I will never be the kind of person that gets defined by other people’s words anymore, but rather my own. I will never be the kind of person who’s constantly seeking affirmation from others. I will only look for it and seek it deep within me. Because at the end, what truly matters is what I think of myself.

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