5 Struggles Of Having A Long-Distance BFF

I have been the proud companion of a long distance best friend for five years now, and I’m very well-versed in the struggles that can come with being so close to someone that is so far away. Here’s some of the things I’ve learned during my journey with my very own LDBFF.

1. You can’t bring them on nights out with you

I would love nothing more than to bring my LDBFF to the clubs and bars with me, introduce her to my friends and get drunk and cope with the aftermath together the next day. This is a bonding activity I have gone through with all of my IRL friends. However, LDBFF and I will have to wait until we’re in the same country to get hammered and recover from the hangover with large greasy pizzas together.

2. You can’t hug them when they need it the most

Whenever LDBFF is upset, or whenever I’m upset, I know that we would both cope a lot better if we were in the same vicinity. I just want to give her cuddles and make her cups of tea and watch crappy movies that are rated one star on Netflix with her, but that just isn’t possible right now.

3. You can’t spend time with them face to face

No shopping, no road trips, no casual walking around in the sunshine during the summer months. You get the point of this one. FaceTime is the only time we get to experience visuals of how the other is living their life today.

4. The time difference can get confusing

I’ve just woken up and it’s 9am. Hold up, it’s still 4am where you are and you haven’t gone to sleep yet? I understand that Orange Is The New Black can get addictive, don’t worry. Carry on.

5. It costs money to see them

Despite the fact you know you have free accommodation waiting for you at the other end of your flight, it’s still expensive to get there if it’s more than a thousand mile journey. Constantly working out how much money you can save each payday whilst still living comfortably, and how long it will take you to save up enough to buy your return plane ticket consumes your conscience. What if I just got a one-way ticket? She won’t care, right? Right…? Okay, she probably would.

But at the end of the day, you know it’s going to be alright. Because your LDBFF will always be there for you, you’ll always be there for them, and one day maybe you’ll be able to live your lives together within the same 10 mile radius. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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