“People don’t make you happy, your thoughts do. People don’t make you sad, your emotions do. Age doesn’t make you mature, experiences do.” — Anonymous
Yesterday I went to one of my best friend’s house and we spent a lot of time updating ourselves since Savannah lives in Milan and we get to see each other every 6 months. She mentioned a guy who’s trying to have a relationship with her. She explained to me how he’s the sweetest guy she’s ever met and how she really wants him as her boyfriend, but also how she has a great fear of being hurt by him. She’s been hurt before so no wonder why she has that fear. Also she mentioned how independent she is and didn’t want to depend emotionally on him. With all that said, I went home reviewing that information and two words were drifting constantly on my mind: “take risks”.
Love is all about taking risks.
There are many opinions whether taking risks for love is a good or terrible idea, but in the end that doesn’t even matter, we take risks anyway. Fear is the most powerful weapon on earth. Fear to be hurt, to be ridiculed, to make mistakes, to fail and not reach our goal. Fear can stop us from achieving or dreams, our goals, or even stop us from taking chances on people who want the best for us. As I said to Savannah, it’s true, she has all the right not to totally trust this guy because of her past experiences, but also if she keeps hiding from love then she’ll only hurt herself and others. If she wants those old wounds to heal she needs to give herself a chance to let someone help her heal them. It’s true, time helps a lot to heal wounds like those, but we also need to open ourselves to other choices that may help us. Sooner or later love is gonna catch us and there’s no way to stop that. We were created to love and to be loved, and I think we all agree that love is the best and most indescribable feeling in the world.
It’s okay to be afraid of feeling vulnerable in another person’s hands, but if it weren’t that way, then it wouldn’t be worth it.
We wouldn’t learn those valuable lessons after we experience our first kiss or after having a break up. All those rejections and all those dinners under the moon would all be easily forgotten if it weren’t for that choice we took to risk it all for love. This is about trust; trusting that he will catch us when we fall, that she will be there in our happiest moments as well as our worst ones. Trusting that he will do everything in his power to keep you safe, as well as you will do anything in your power to make him feel as the best guy you’ve ever met.
It’s ok to depend on someone else.
True, we should take our own choices in our life, but isn’t it amazing when you can make someone else part of that life and know how vulnerable you are by doing it? When we read one of Nicholas Sparks novels we see that couples make so many sacrifices for love and the first thing we say is “it’s not real, they’re just a bunch of fake perfect stories” but one thing we can learn from all of those stories is that every single sacrifice we make for love is totally worth it in the end. We need to learn to make ourselves vulnerable, and not look at it as a weakness, but as our most beautiful trait.
It all starts with a choice, and this time the choice is to open our heart and let other know the real me.
Let the world know you for who you really are and not who you want the world to think you are. Love, risk it all, take chances, get hurt, get back up and try it again and never ever let fear stop you from opening your heart to that person who is ready to make sacrifices for you. Love is a two way feeling, so if you take risks by opening your heart, remember that she is also taking the same risk by letting you know her as who she really is.
Risks are challenging and they’re scaring, but the feeling of overcoming our fears and achieving our goals it’s just indescribable, and when we overcome them for love, it’s even better.
As Peter Mc Williams said: “It is a risk to love. What if it doesn’t work out? Ah, but what if it does.”