At some point in your life you have probably been classified as either an introvert or an extrovert. I am an introvert, and anyone who knows me will most definitely agree. But living in a society where extroverts are seen as the life of the party can sometimes make introverted people like me feel judged and misunderstood. Extroverts are loud, outgoing, funny, sociable, and enthusiastic people who make us introverts feel like we have claimed all the bad qualities. We are seen as quiet, shy, reserved, anxious, and socially awkward people, which may be true, but only to a certain extent.
You see, I am quiet. But that’s only because I would rather spend my time listening than talking. I would rather process thoughts in my head before adding noise to a conversation. I only speak when I have something important to say, and I will try to formulate my words before I speak them out loud. I like to have rich and meaningful conversations with others and I like to make an impact when I talk.
I am reserved, but that is only because I prefer spending time alone. I enjoy solitude and having time by myself to reflect and recharge. Constantly being surrounded by people can be sometimes draining, so it is important for me to create my own space. It is during this time that I am able to nurture my creativity, sit with my thoughts, and deal with my emotions.
I am a private person. I hate drama and gossip, and the thought of being the center of attention actually scares me. I keep to myself because I don’t feel the need to constantly tell everyone my thoughts or how I’m feeling. I don’t feel the need to share secrets with people just so I can feel somewhat closer to them.
I’m not socially awkward, I just don’t enjoy socializing in large groups, especially with people I know only on a superficial level. I hate small talk and being introduced to new people who I know I will never see again. Instead, I am thankful to have close friendships, each marked by a deep level of connection. I am thankful to have a small group of friends who I can trust with everything.
I observe everything. I see things differently and I notice the small things that others might not. I like to look beyond the surface and find beauty in all that surrounds me. Like the way the sun shines through the clouds on a rainy day. Or the way the sand feels between your toes when you haven’t been to the beach for a while. I enjoy being able to appreciate these small things in life.
I want you to know that there is nothing wrong with being an introvert. There is nothing wrong with being a good listener, being thoughtful, and wanting to establish deep connections with others. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have meaningful conversations or only having a small group of friends. There is nothing wrong with keeping to yourself, enjoying solitude, and valuing your freedom.
I am and always will be an introvert, and there is nothing wrong with that.