If you want to grow and become the best version of yourself, you must first shed parts of who you used to be. The parts that no longer correspond to who you’re becoming. The parts that can still delay your growth. The parts that weren’t serving you but kept you stuck in your comfort zone. Sometimes you have to let go of the old stories you believed about yourself and create new ones.
It’s shedding the parts of you that prevented you from having a good life or a job you love or healthy relationships. The parts of you that made you believe that this is all you can ever accomplish and this is as good as it’s ever going to get. The parts that got comfortable with mediocrity and playing it safe. The parts that got used to settling instead of trying to go for the things that your heart desires. Sometimes you just need to purge who used to be to become who you were meant to be.
You need to change the parts of you that depend on others for approval or validation. The parts that feed on that kind of codependency for survival. You need to change the parts of you that procrastinate when it comes to working on yourself or your mental strength or your emotional wellbeing and eventually, you have to change the people who negatively impact your life. You need to change the parts that are always pleasing others at the expense of your own happiness or comfort.
You have to let go of the old limiting beliefs and stories that showed up throughout your life. I know you have evidence of why some things will never work out or how some things are impossible to change but you should never get tired of trying to change what isn’t serving you. You shouldn’t surrender to these old stories that don’t help you bloom or grow. Sometimes all you need is courage. Courage to rewrite everything you firmly believed in and everything that you were taught.
One thing I know for sure, real change means accepting the death of some very dear parts of who you used to be, mourning their losses and creating a whole new version. Sometimes real growth means saying goodbye to some very stubborn parts of you so you can commit to the new parts that will ultimately turn your life around.