The Truth Is We Outgrow Those Who Don’t Know How To Love Us

The Truth Is We Outgrow Those Who Don’t Know How To Love Us

The truth is we outgrow those who don’t appreciate us. Those who are okay with our absence. Those who allow the distance between us and them to grow. We outgrow those who make us feel like we’re replaceable. 

The truth is we outgrow those who aren’t genuine with us. Those who say things they don’t mean. Those who talk the talk but can’t walk the walk when we need them beside us. Those who only like a certain side of us but don’t want to accept all other sides. Those who don’t care about our wants and needs because they’re too busy focusing on their own.

We outgrow those who make us feel like we’re not worth their time or effort. Those who are capable of giving so much more but choose to be stingy with us. Those who put us last on their list of properties. We outgrow those who are lazy with us. Those who take two steps backward every time we move one step forward.

The truth is we reach a point where we know who we are, what we want and what we deserve and we’re not willing to go back to selling ourselves short again. We’re not willing to repeat the same vicious cycle of handing out our hearts to those who don’t know how to catch them. The truth is we reach a point where our self-love trumps any other love. We choose ourselves even when people don’t choose us.

The truth is we outgrow those who show us that they’re not invested. That they don’t want to try. We outgrow those who treat us like a pit stop until they find what they’re looking for. We outgrow those who don’t make us feel like they’re glad they found us. We outgrow those who don’t value us the way we want to be valued.

The truth is we’re capable of giving someone we love the world but all we need is the reassurance that they won’t abuse it, that our hearts are secure with them, that they won’t turn into another lie or another mistake.

The truth is we outgrow those who don’t know how to love us and we save our love for those who fall as hard as we do and catch us if we fall faster. We outgrow those who tell us everything we need to hear but show us nothing. We outgrow those who don’t love us because it took us years to learn how to love ourselves and we’re not ready to ruin that by being with people who make us question who we are or if we’re worthy of their love.

The truth is we outgrow those who aren’t afraid of losing us because they’ll never truly understand who we are and what kind of love we’re seeking. They’ll never truly see us the way we want to be seen.

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