But It’s Not Always You


It’s not your fault that you thought they meant what they said. It’s not your fault that you believe people because why would anyone purposely lie to you? Why would they go in with bad intentions?

It’s not always you or your words or your heart, sometimes it’s the kind of people they are. The kind of love they’re used to. The state of mind they’re in. The thirst they have for attention. Their fragile egos that find joy in breaking hearts. It’s not your fault that they’re still emotionally unavailable and playing games just to prove something to themselves or to others.

Sometimes they find joy in winning over someone amazing like you even if they don’t intend to keep you. Sometimes it’s really, really not your fault.

It’s not your fault that you saw potential and decided to take a chance. It’s not your fault that you tried to be open and positive without being too guarded. It’s not your fault that you didn’t see it coming. It’s not your fault that they lied.

It’s not your fault that you went with the flow, that you were spontaneous, that you gave your heart to someone who kept asking for it. It’s not your fault because you didn’t start any of it and you didn’t end it.

It’s not always you.

It’s not your fault so stop asking questions and overanalyzing and thinking that something must be terribly wrong with you. It’s not your fault that someone is not ready for what you’re ready for. It’s not your fault that someone can’t meet you where you are. Sometimes it’s a blessing in disguise.

Because sometimes our hearts need to move for the wrong ones so they can recognize the right one. Sometimes our hearts need to believe all the lies so they can appreciate the truth.

It’s not your fault. It always takes two. And if you want to really balance the equation, you have to look at the other person. You have to realize that they also played a major role in making you believe. Sometimes there’s nothing wrong with you and it’s them that need a lot of work. A lot of fixing. A lot of healing before they can understand what it really means to let someone else in. TC mark

Rania Naim

Writing. Living. Loving. Dreaming. Healing. Evolving.

This Book Is For You 👇

“Never lose sight of the fact that love, and only love, has the capacity to save even the most desperate parts of you.” — Bianca Sparacino

“Live a life that is driven; not by fear, but by love.” — Bianca Sparacino

“Take your life back and grow it into something that inspires you to rise with conviction and passion. Take your life back and grow it into something that you are proud of.” — Bianca Sparacino

Click Here

More From Thought Catalog

Calming CBD Dog Treats

Looking to calm your dog down without embarrassing yourself or having to get prescription medication? 100% THC free, lip-smacking peanut butter flavor, legal in all US states.

“My dog is my best friend and knowing that she had separation anxiety was killing me. Knowing that her CBD oil keeps her at ease while I’m at work or out is a relief. For both of us.”
— Kendra Syrdal

Thought Catalog readers get 20% off using coupon code: ANXIETY20

Buy CBD dog treats