Don’t Ask Me To Change So I Can Find Love


Don’t ask me to stop being so emotional or so vulnerable because this sends men running the other way. Don’t ask me to stop being myself for someone who can’t handle all of me.

Don’t ask me to start playing games because all guys love the chase, don’t ask me to try to impress the ones who will leave once the game over.

Don’t make me feel bad because I got lost in a moment, because I said too much, because I was honest and open. Don’t make me feel bad for being the one who cares more or the one who will always give someone a second chance.

Don’t make me feel bad for believing. Believing in love, believing in people, believing in change and believing that only love can change people — only love can change the world.

Don’t ask me to change for someone so they can love me more or give me a chance. Don’t make me fall into the same trap that keeps this generation from finding love.

Don’t ask me to participate in everything I hate about modern romance, don’t ask me to be like everyone else in this generation; afraid to feel, afraid to get hurt and afraid to love.

Ask me to be myself because the right person will not have a problem with it.

Ask me to be myself because wearing a mask is nothing but a waste of time.

Ask me to keep believing because this is half the battle.

And ask me to always love with all my heart because you never know what tomorrow may bring and it’s better to live with answers than die with questions.

Because the truth is love is supposed to change you for the better, it’s supposed to enhance all the good things in you and it’s supposed to fuel more love.

Love is supposed to make you feel better about yourself, it’s not supposed to make you feel that everything you’re doing will never appeal to someone else.

Because someone out there is looking for exactly what you have to offer, someone out there knows what it’s like to be you and someone out there wants you just the way you are.

But don’t tell me that I’m failing at love because I have to change my tactics or because I’m a hopeless romantic.

I’m not failing, I just haven’t found love yet because I haven’t met the right person yet. I haven’t found the person who wants what I have to offer.

I haven’t found love because I don’t want to change to be with the wrong person. I don’t want to fool someone into loving who I am not.

I am waiting for the one who will love me for who I am and won’t ask me to change so he can be with me.  Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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