Read This If You Think You’re The Problem


What if I’m the problem?

Every time I utter these words, my friends attack me because they think I’m undervaluing myself, but I always tell them that it’s not a necessarily a bad thing. Being the problem is not as bad as it sounds.

When you’re the problem, it means you don’t want to settle.

It means you don’t just want to be with anyone, it means you’re waiting for the right person or the kind of love that you’ve been looking for. It means that you know when to try harder and when to walk away and it means that you are not afraid of expressing what you want or what you don’t want.

When you’re the problem, it means you’re still trying to figure out who you are.

If you fall for the ‘wrong’ people, it might be because you’re still figuring out who you really are or you’re growing and you haven’t completely found yourself yet to find the right one for you. Once you really have an idea about who you are, you’ll find it easier to filter the wrong ones and give a chance to the right ones to come along.

When you’re the problem, it means that you’re brave.  

When you’re ‘too much’ or ‘too stubborn’ or ‘too honest,’ it means that you fall in love fearlessly, it means that you don’t care about the game or the rules and you just do whatever your heart tells you. When you tell people how you truly feel even if you don’t know the answer that’s when you know that you’re not the problem at all. The more open you are about your feelings, the less problems you’ll have.

Because the real problem is being someone you’re not to please someone else. The real problem is lying to someone else and to yourself about how you feel.

But if you’re only trying to find love and failing at it, then you’re not the problem and it’s not a problem no matter what anyone tells you.

The problem is staying when you have to leave. The problem is pretending to be friends with someone when you want more. The problem is chasing someone who wants to run away. The problem is begging someone to be with you and the problem is dropping your standards just to be with someone when you know someone out there can give you more.

When you’re the problem, it means you’re strong and anyone who has a problem with that is not someone you want in your life.  Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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