In a new relationship, you plunge head-first off the figurative deep end. You embrace the intensity of what you feel and fall in love quickly. I get it because I’m the same way.
I take so much pride in treating my guy like gold. I do the morning “I love you” texts and never pass up an opportunity for a sappy, mushy reference to “Soulmates” or “The One.”
We immerse ourselves completely in these new feelings, soaking up the butterflies and relishing every spark.
As a result, I’ve been mislabeled as clingy, needy, and crazy. I’ve been used, abused, and treated like dirt by complete pieces of shit who should be apologizing to plants for wasting the oxygen they help make.
I have uncontrollably sobbed over guys who didn’t give two shits about hurting me. I’ve wasted hours wondering why the hell they didn’t appreciate everything I did and boy, does it suck.
Love is meant to protect us, and real love does, but it’s not something that comes easily.
It’s instilled in our minds that love will bring happiness, safety, and security. Most people witness a loving relationship between their parents or caretakers from an early age.
The media bombards us with love stories. When you’re single, it seems like everywhere you go you see couples holding hands, kissing, and cuddling.
Falling in love is a rush. The idea of finding your soulmate fulfills a deep desire we all have to bond. But remember, true love is rare.
Realistically speaking, you won’t love every person you date. Letting yourself be madly infatuated with everyone you meet will only lead to unnecessary heartache and disappointments.
Next time it happens, I want you to ask yourself, “Was it really true love?” This will open your eyes to the fact that it probably wasn’t and hopefully lessen the feeling of betrayal.
Freeing yourself from being love’s victim means you must stop trying to impulsively rush the feeling of being in love. Get to know the person first and seriously consider the factors that ensure a real and lasting love.