I’m Ugly And I Don’t Give A Damn About It

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I always feel blessed, and confused at the same time, whenever a guy likes me. I’m ugly. And I am not saying this in an inferior way. I’m saying this as in a matter-of-fact way. And I think every girl should be just as honest with herself. I don’t buy bullshits saying that every girl is beautiful, and what’s important is what’s on the inside, and whatever feel-good quotations about inside beauty you have there. I think an ugly girl should just admit that she’s ugly. No buts, no howevers. I mean, what’s wrong with being ugly? The more you sugarcoat it, the bigger of a deal it becomes.

I’m saying this because everyone would agree that I’m not beautiful. Yet, I managed to have four boyfriends who fortunately never cheated on me. I get admirers, suitors, flings, and more, at least once a year. Ha ha. And so what does that tell you? Probably that being ugly doesn’t equate to being unlikeable. One can be physically ugly and be likable at the same time.

Don’t get me wrong; I’ve definitely gone through the insecure stage. There are still times when I feel like life would be a lot easier if I were pretty. But then I bounce back and remind myself that life would only be easier if I didn’t make lame excuses for myself as to why I’m not beautiful. Only the excuses are what make life hard for me.

So, ugly girls: Do not despair. We are on an even battlefield. The only thing that’s keeping us from winning against pretty girls (did I just make up a war between ugly and pretty girls?) is the misconception that we are unlikeable. Here are four things I’d urge you to do:

  1. Accept that you are ugly, and be proud of it.
  2. Think about something that is likable about you. Maybe you are funny, or smart, a good cook, or athletic. No matter how big your likable trait is, capitalize on it. It’ll be your weapon.
  3. Aim for self-improvement. Don’t diet or wear makeup or do any of that stuff for the purpose of being pretty. Do it only to improve yourself.
  4. Never ever ever feel sad about being ugly. That’s just pathetic. And no one likes feeling sorry for someone or being around a self-pitying person.

I say this because it’s what’s worked for me. I know that I am ugly and I don’t give a shit about it. Luckily, there are a lot of people out there (including guys) who don’t give a damn too. So why would you? Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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