You Are NOT Going To Become A Crazy Cat Lady Just Because You’re Not Engaged

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I’m turning 23 and my understanding was that I have plenty of time to experience whatever life has left to offer. People say you’re so young still so you try so hard to hold onto that. Until Facebook gave people the opportunity to stomp all over that idea. That’s right, the engagement announcements are currently at an all time high. 

I’m not here to rain on anyone’s parade, I’m the first to stand up for people making decisions that bring that person happiness.

What I’m focusing on is seeing someone who it feels like you were just in high school with make this huge decision about literally the rest of their life. When I’m over here anxiously in a corner wondering what is going to even happen after I graduate? Alongside thinking do I want to go and get chipotle now or later?

I will bring to light that yes, I am single. Which opens up two other extremes that my girlfriends and I struggle with. Either those we know are currently planning a wedding, or we’re convinced that we will inevitably become cat ladies. There’s no in-between. 

And that’s the disappointing part. That because that’s not happening for us at moment, seeing it happen for others gives us a silly little feeling of well is this even going to happen?



Which I sometimes forget totally shouldn’t be the case. Not to mention there is a lot of other important life changing things to accomplish aside from getting married and starting a family. And those things are completely subjective to what you’re passionate about. 

Seeing a wedding announcement pop up every other minute sparks this nervousness as if it’s some sort of race and you’ve just been reminded you’re actually in last place. Better yet, you’re not even in the running.

When realistically, I can confidently say I’m very happy with where I am in my life and what I’m doing with all this spare time I’m blessed with from not having to plan my own wedding. 

This thing happens when you start to reach your twenties, mapping out a timeline when you ideally want every big thing to happen. Whether you sat down and made a serious one or had a quick thought about it. Honestly no body deserves to put that type of pressure on themselves. The important thing is to constantly be working on bettering yourself while appreciating those you do have around you, and the rest will figure itself out.