You Need To Move On Because They Already Did

Adi Constantin

Letting go is just about as hard as life can get. What are you supposed to do when someone who has given you all these memories, all of this happiness and love in your life just walks away? You’re left with all the love in the world to give, and no one to give it to. You’re forced to sit there with memories that you have no clue what to do with, so you just lay in bed with tear-stained eyes and remember. And these memories, while they play, force you to think that maybe, just maybe, there’s still hope and they’re laying in bed too, thinking of you.

And suddenly you’re angry. Pissed off. Infuriated, even. Why did they come into your life, flip it up and make you care, make you love them, and give you so much happiness only to leave you? Why? Why would they put you through that? Obviously, they don’t care as much as you thought they did. They lied. They hurt you and they deserve pain.

But then, you realize. You’re just hurt. Hurt at them leaving you, hurt at the pain you have, hurt that it seems like the absolute end of the world. You still would wish them the best and miss them, but that doesn’t stop it from feeling like your heart is torn into pieces.

I know you can sit here and think of a thousand reasons why you two should be together again, and that’s exactly the reason you need to go ahead and forget about them.

How much damage have they caused in your life? How much pain, and suffering? How much of your life have you given up since meeting them? If the answer to any of these questions is a lot, it’s time to let them go.

Here’s where the truth hits you: they aren’t laying in their bed, thinking of you too. They are out there, moving on and finding someone else and picking up their own lives. Now, that might be the most bitter pill to swallow. But it’s the truth, and you out of anyone deserves to be told the truth. You owe that to yourself to hear it and listen, even if you don’t believe it.

But while the truth will hurt, the truth will also set you free. And the truth is, every person in your life is either a blessing or a lesson. They are not meant to be in our lives forever, but more to teach us a certain thing about this chapter in our lives. We love and we lose, and we learn from the experience, and close that part of our story. And most of the time, these lessons are not what we carry onto the next page.

You deserve better. You deserve better than being sick to your stomach overseeing them with someone else. You deserve better than sitting awake at night, playing through thoughts in your head and wondering where things went wrong for the fifty-third time. Your heart may be broken and bruised now, but it is still beautiful.

You owe it to yourself to pick yourself off of the ground. Go out with your friends, make a new hobby, spend some time with your family, get a new hairstyle. Change some things up. Make yourself a better you, a better life for yourself. Make yourself learn from this lesson, and move forward with your life.

Don’t sit there and obsess over what they’re doing, check their social media or anything, because it will make it that much harder. Delete them out of your life. Unfollow, unfriend. Do whatever it is you need to do to move on, and don’t apologize to anyone for trying to repair what is broken. It is your life.

You will move on and you will fall in love again. And you will probably be hurt again. But that is the beauty of life. We fall and we get hurt sometimes, but it is these moments that make us appreciate our happiest times and our great moments. And when you look back on this chapter of your life, you will no longer be sad, empty, angry or hurt. You will simply realize that it made you who you are today and that all roads, no matter how broken, will still lead to where you are supposed to go. TC mark

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