Living in fear is the norm for humans. All of us are scared of something, be it the supernatural, heights, or even emotions. Fear hinders you from living life fully. However, everything you want is on the other side of fear. Don’t ever hesitate to give yourself a chance to be capable of everything you can be. All these fears are valid for only some of us, but we all have a particular common fear: the fear of ourselves.
You are your own worst enemy; you know it and you’re scared. How can you be your worst enemy when you’ve always had your own best interests at heart? Isn’t everything you consciously do in life naturally inclined to be for your own benefit? The key word is “conscious.” What your brain and mind does and says to you subconsciously is usually uncontrolled and may be detrimental to your goals.
You’re scared because you’ve had a mammoth amount of psychological, cultural and environmental conditioning. You spent your whole life agonising over what people thought of you and living a life comprised of one part action, five parts hiding. You were relinquishing your power [over yourself] repeatedly, day by day, and it felt like there was nothing you could do about it.
You are the captain of your ship. You run the show. You make your own decisions. Life is not a popularity contest. It is about the decisions you make, not the decisions others make. Surely, everyone has heard of these statements. However, not one of us is unaffected by the opinions and thoughts of those around us. How else would you explain social norms? Your fear of others’ opinions suppresses the unique character and expressions that your true self want to let out so badly. But you can’t, won’t, and don’t do anything about it.
What is your intuition telling you?
There is not a clear path that everyone should follow. Your greatest fear should not be of failure, but of succeeding in life at all the wrong things. Choose a path that fits YOU. Those who follow the crowd usually get lost in it. Challenge yourself to ask with each and every step, and each focus point that consumes your energy: “Does this thing I’m doing right now truly serve me and those I care about in the next few minutes, few months, and few years?”
“Sacrifice what you are for what you will become.”
You continually put your dreams and goals off until tomorrow, and you pass on great opportunities simply because they have the potential to lead you out of your comfort zone. In other words, you’re afraid of change and the unknown.
You start using excuses to justify your lack of backbone: “Someday when I have more money,” or “when I’m older,” or the over-abused “I’ll get to it as soon as I have more time.” This is a vicious cycle that leads to a deeply unsatisfying life—a way of thinking that eventually sends you to your grave with immense regret.
Regret that you didn’t follow your heart.
Regret that you always put everyone else’s needs before your own.
Regret that you didn’t do what you could have done when you had the chance.
Every human being has goals and dreams in mind, yet most never seem to fully accomplish them. While some can attribute this to external factors and environmental misfortunes, it can easily be inferred that the true culprit lays in yourself. So fear yourself. But know that yes, if you truly have the desire, you can do something about it. Because that is how true success is created.