3 Kind Of Guys Who Turn Good Girls Into Bad Girls


The good girl is going extinct. Many valid explanations are thrown about: upbringing, society, TV, music, peer pressure, etc. But one important cause of her death is the men she encounters who take her and destroy her, so let’s take a look at those responsible for her tarnishment.

The womanizer

Some men are strong and powerful, some men are smart and rich, but some men are love engineers experts at finding the code to unlock girls stiffly shut legs. There is nothing inherently wrong with these men, but just like there’s honor among thieves, there should be honor among heart robbers: virgins and good girls shouldn’t be messed with.

Nowadays however, seducers are ruthless, and if the exploration of the far west was a time of free killing and gun slinging, the new millennium is an age of rampaging hymen perforation and innocence spoilage.

 His mix of boldness, good looks and suavity gives second thoughts even to the most traveled and seasoned woman. When a good girl meets him, everything feels magically perfect, as he appears to be above the mundane rest of the human race. He is all she ever dreamed of from the time she was a little child reading romance novels; when he takes her hand to tell her she is the love of his life, butterflies fill her stomach, excitement invades her face and moist forms inside her thighs.

Easily the number one predator of good girls, with his harmless looking face and his heart of wolf, the womanizer likes to disarm his prey with and strike effectively when her guard is lowered. When he gets what he wants, he dumps her in the wild, leaving her with her lacerated heart bleeding in the open, sometimes with an unwanted child or an incurable STD. At this point in her life, the good girl wished she had someone who’s done it all and seen it all, someone who could have seen his game and protected her from certain doom.

The “nice” guy

The “nice” guy is the one who covers up his incompetence and lack of courage by being overly gentle and accommodating. He’s not really nice: like every single male on the planet, he wants sex with you, but he takes backdoors and windows to enter your fortress. While he rarely manages to get his lowly stick inside you, don’t underestimate his negative influence: his damage is in the day-to-day erosion and annoyance, like an unreachable slimy leech stuck in the middle of your back that sucks your energy little by little.

Too afraid to ask you out, he will pass himself as a sexless friend hoping you will one day see how great he is, sometimes hiding behind the virtue of romance, sometimes behind a fervent faith in God. At first, things will be perfect with him, as he will call you every day, listen to your boring stories, gives you lifts and even buy you gifts without ever asking you out. Later, he will randomly have anger outfits because he is growing intense hatred for the one he loves but cannot get. All the nice gestures he did will be quickly erased and outdone by the drama and insults he will throw at you.

The “nice guy” makes women suspicious of men in general and further increases their hatred for the male species. Since good girls are friendly and welcoming by nature, they should have someone who is stronger and intimidating by their side to scare away these annoyances.

The wrong guy 

He’s not a bad guy. On paper, he’s the kind your mom would want you to date: he’s smart, he wants to go to college and he’s alright all around. He’s the high school sweet heart you typically meet early in your life, at a time when your identity is not completely formed yet. You have common interests and he’s funny, so what could go wrong?

Alas, time goes by and you start to change. He remains the exact same guy he was when you first met him, but strangely, your love and passion for him progressively turn solely into camaraderie.

He’s not strong enough for you, not alive enough for you, not passionate enough for you. It’s not his fault and it would be unfair to blame him: that’s just how he is and he will never change. You’re vibrant, smart and pretty; other guys can’t leave you alone, offering you a better prospect as they are more interesting, more ambitious and ballsy. Your lover starts to get insecure and jealous, causing friction between you and him, your unconvincing and unconvinced words of appeasement not having any effect on the obvious end that is coming.

You’re a good girl. You made a promise, you’re honest and you don’t cheat. All your friends are in common, your mom knows his mom, you’re strongly tied together and you’re that cute perfect couple everybody looks up to as an example. One day, your endless arguments lead you to break up and go separate ways. All this time you spent with a guy who was not a match for you could have been spent with the right guy instead, getting married and having children. That seemingly innocuous adventure cost you over ten of the most important years of your life, throwing you now on a dating market that feels like an incomprehensible, unsolvable maze.

Good girls need direction

The good girl is a rare, special breed of woman who needs the protection and direction of older, more experienced adults to make sure she doesn’t waste her time with the wrong kind of men. Someone with a keen eye and vastly greater life experience can see through the game, character and value of these 3 types of men to effectively protect her and preserve her gentleness, generosity and good heart. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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