Ladies, Here’s How Your Fairytale Can Actually Come To Life


As a little girl, you believed in fairy tales, didn’t you? Even if you’re a heartbroken misandrist or you just hate all of humanity in general, deep down you still hope for your happy ending, don’t you? Even the Grinch-iest woman wants to find true love, though she may refuse to admit it. What if I told you that you could have all of it come true, and that it’s actually totally in your power?

Ladies, it’s time to break free from your conditioning, and fly free forever.

Women have been conditioned since their childhood that the happiest day of their lives will be their wedding day. They have been convinced that the prime of their lives is when they finally meet ‘The One’. Once their biological clock starts to tick, no wonder, women chase men for commitment all the damned time. They have been made to believe that their most desirable qualities are their beauty, youth, femininity and innocence. While these characteristics are among the most appealing to men, by no means, are they the only ones that matter.

The thing about your fairy tale, ladies, is that it’s incomplete. Most women do not envision their lives after their wedding. They do not think past the prettiness of the coveted shining stone, the flamboyant dresses, and picture postcard locations. They do not realize that marriage is not the final destination, that love is not the only goal. A ring on your finger is not going to scratch that unforgivable itch, and it’s definitely not going to make you happy.

Why don’t you ask an honest, hurriedly-married woman that? Chances are she’s felt that emptiness, the dull expanding vacuum, and chances are she’s tried to fill it with having a family. Chances are the vacuum has grown bigger, once her kids have flown from the nest, and chances are she’s found that she’s still as lost as her three year old grand daughter.

That’s because she, like you, and many, many women have misunderstood your own fairytale, and you’re doing a great disservice to the power of your own magic.

You can find lasting love, but first you really have to begin with yourself. If you haven’t learned to properly love yourself, how are you going to find it in you to love your future husband, children and grand children? You have to be so full of love for yourself that it can’t help but overflow to the rest of your family. If you keep giving and giving, without having anything inside, that hole is just going to grow larger and larger, until you totally disappear. Of course, you can blame your mid-life crisis meltdown on menopause, but you and I both know that there is more to life than this.

Do you want to look back on your life, and wonder why what everyone said would make you happy, didn’t actually make you happy at all? It’s because you never took the time to actually listen to yourself.

What do you want? Who are you really? If you don’t have a clue, that’s great, you can start now.

You are the sum of your experiences, travels, all the wonderful people you’ve met, your crazy passions, bizarre thoughts and wildest dreams. So you better start making some great memories as soon as possible. You are your potential and your purpose. What a pity it would be if you deprived the world of your quirks, idiosyncrasies and precious uniqueness! Bring your creativity to the world, and you will discover true meaning and great personal fulfillment.

Recondition your inner child to dream bigger, and teach your own children to do the same.

Work on finding yourself, and love is sure to find you.

Just remember, that like marriage, finding yourself is not a final destination. It is an ongoing journey, an infinite adventure, and that’s where your fairytale’s really at, girl. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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