The Real Tragedy In Loving Someone Who Cannot Love You Back

God And Man

People have a habit of wanting things they cannot have. The advertising world calls it aspiration and giving us all something to aspire to. The trouble is, you cannot aspire to other people. Just to yourself. Yet we have all fallen hard and fast for someone who does not love us in return.

It isn’t the fact that they cannot love you. It is the fact that you start presuming you are unlovable. How can, if you have fallen for them this hard, they not feel even an inkling of what you do? Is your passion so easily forgotten? Is your heart not worthy? How can someone see the wholeness, the truth of such a deep love and simply not feel for it at all?

So we cry. We hurt. We beg the universe, we ask what we have done wrong to feel a torment this strong, this tragic, this utterly broken inside ourselves when all we were trying to do was love someone fully and generously. How can the universe have allowed this to happen. How can we allow this to happen to ourselves?

But the reason is this: to learn our own worth. By linking our self worth to the way someone else receives our love, we are causing ourselves more harm than anything. It means we are not sure of who we are.

So this is the universe showing us to have confidence in ourselves in a difficult and painful way. It is telling us to love ourselves even when people we love choose not to love us the same way. It is reminding us that our love will not be wasted if we turn our love onto ourselves and learn to love ourselves the same way we are loving someone who does not love us back.

After all, by giving all your resources of love to someone else who does not care, do you not think all you draining all of your resources of love for yourself? How can you ever give yourself true self love if you are valuing your love only by how it is received by someone else. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Nikita is the author of Your Soul Is A River and Your Heart Is The Sea.

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