The only true way you are ever going to get over the heartache that is trying to destroy you is by loving yourself. The only way you are ever going to succeed against any and all pain is by learning how to forgive yourself for the things you have done wrong and trying to amend and learn from them. The only way you are going to actually become the best ever version of yourself is by learning to love yourself.
These things are all true, because there is no love which will fulfill you like the love for yourself. When you love yourself and turn yourself into your own soulmate, every single one of your goals and your dreams can be accomplished. You can find the hope and healing you have been looking for so desperately and for so long deep inside yourself.
The idea that someone is your other half when you are already whole is one of the things that is holding you back. Don’t allow anyone to convince you that any kind of love other than the love you hold within your own heart for yourself is more important. This love, the love of yourself will make you stronger, better, more powerful than you ever have been before.
So how does one begin this journey into loving one’s self? It’s not easy. It’s going to start out messy because you have some healing to do and some parts of yourself that you may not like to make peace with. This bit always hurts because it means dredging up memories and moments of yourself you hate, cringe at, feel like you have displayed the worst part of yourself and handled things extremely badly. Or it is the very worst thing that has ever happened to you, the thing that gives you nightmares, the darkness you deliberately don’t acknowledge, you will have to acknowledge and fight it. It’s choosing the tougher path, the road not taken because that road, though starting out rough will lead you to bigger and stronger and better things.
Self love will also teach you how you want other people to show you their love. You will begin to understand what your love language is, what you need from people to truly show you they appreciate you and most importantly what is the best way to appreciate yourself.
Self love will set you free. It will make you the best and most independent version of yourself. It will stop you from falling into toxic co-dependent relationships. And most importantly it will help you grow into the person you need to be for yourself when you hit the hardest or worst moments of your life.