All We Really Want To Know Is That We’re Not Alone In Our Struggles

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All we really want is for someone to relate.

We just want to know that we’re not going through this alone, that there are other people out there feeling the same things were feeling, the pain, the sadness, the confusion, the guilt, the overwhelming feeling that we’re in over our head. We just want to know there’s someone else going through the same thing.

We want to be comforted by the fact that we’re not the only one who struggles. And that we’re not the only one who feels like those struggles will win. We want to know that there’s other people out there who have defeated them, that we can defeat our struggles too, just like they did.

We just want to connect. To bond with someone else who feels just as alone as we do, to reach the others who feel lonely and to let them know we’re here for them too.

We just want to feel understood. We want to be able to talk about our feelings and not have someone look at us like we’re crazy, like they have no idea how the things we’re feeling really feel, like they couldn’t even imagine.

We just want to belong. We want to be able to retreat somewhere we feel comfortable, somewhere we feel welcome with no judgement, somewhere that feels just as good as home.

Sometimes we just want to leave all of these feelings and worries behind, to leave our struggles behind, and everything else with them. Sometimes we wish our struggles would be the ones leaving, so we wouldn’t have to.

Because it seems no matter where we go, no matter where we try to escape to, these struggles come with us. They’re with us on that 8 hour drive, sitting in the back seat. They’re with us on that 3 hour flight, stealing the only available arm rest, and then once we get to wherever we’re going, they’re still there.

And no matter how annoying they are, no matter how much they follow us around, our struggles are a constant reminder of our resilience, of our strength and determination. Because we can’t just make our struggles disappear, and we can’t just leave them behind either, but we can deal with them, and we will.

And one thing that helps us deal with all of these problems, is knowing that we’re not the only ones who have them. You are not alone in your struggles, no matter how small and un-relatable you think they may be, no matter how sad or guilty or lost your struggles make you feel, there’s someone else out there feeling that same thing.

All we really want to know is that we’re not alone, and you’re not. TC mark

Nicole Tarkoff

Writer based in the Philadelphia area. Person who really loves her dog and watching cooking shows. Check out my writing on Thought Catalog and follow me on Facebook! Connect with me and submit your work on Collective World.

This is me letting you go

If there’s one thing we all need to stop doing, it’s waiting around for someone else to show up and change our lives. Just be the person you’ve been waiting for.

At the end of the day, you have two choices in love – one is to accept someone just as they are and the other is to walk away.

We owe it to ourselves to live the greatest life that we’re capable of living, even if that means that we have to be alone for a very long time.

“Everyone could use a book like this at some point in their life.” – Heather

Let go now

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