(March 21st to April 19th)
The thing that’s really wrong with your love life is you look at love like it’s a competition.
If you’re in a relationship, you want to be the ULTIMATE couple. You want to be the real life #relationshipgoals. You have to realize that you don’t need to be THE BEST in love, you need to be in a relationship that’s healthy and supportive, and one that makes you happy.
If you’re single, you want to find a partner who’s better than everyone else’s. You want to find THE PERFECT boyfriend of girlfriend. Stop focusing on finding the best partner, and try finding someone who’s right for you. The person you end up with will most likely be better than ‘the perfect’ boyfriend or girlfriend.
(April 20th to May 21st)
The thing that’s really wrong with your love life is, it’s just the same old same old.
If you’re in a relationship, things have gotten way too routine. Take your partner somewhere you both have never been together. Do something you both have never done together. Experience things that are new and exciting because those are two things your relationship won’t always be.
If you’re single, you feel like you’ve gotten way too used to it. You need to find a way to change things up. Step outside of your comfort zone and don’t immediately retreat. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there, whether it’s with someone else or on your own.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
The thing that’s really wrong with your love life is, you’re getting restless.
If you’re in a relationship, you’re wondering how to make it more interesting. It’s normal to crave change after having the same thing for so long, but don’t take what you have for granted. Do what you can to make things more interesting, but don’t make your partner feel like they’re boring you.
If you’re single, you’re desperately ready to settle down with anyone because you can’t stand being on your own for one more second. You’re tired of the way things currently are, but you don’t know exactly how to change them. You’ll figure it out when you stop looking for a placement filler as a partner. Try to meet someone you enjoy being with, don’t just settle down with the first person you come across.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
The thing that’s really wrong with your love life is, you’re expecting people to be as sensitive as you are.
If you’re in a relationship, you want your partner to share their emotions as much as you do, but not everyone expresses themselves in the same way, and not everyone is as open and vulnerable as you are. Give your partner time and understand that everyone is different when it comes to expressing feelings.
If you’re single, you become really bummed when feelings aren’t reciprocated, but you have to understand that not everyone will feel the same way that you feel about them. It doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you, it just mean you’re wrong for that person. You don’t have to be for everyone. Find someone who loves you the way you are.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
The thing that’s really wrong with your love life is, you think it revolves around you.
If you’re in a relationship, you constantly need to be the center of attention. You’re focusing too much on yourself and not enough on your partner, and it’s making them feel insignificant.
If you’re single, you think you’re a catch and don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t love you. Confidence is great, but not when it makes you look like an asshole.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
The thing that’s really wrong with your love life is, you think you’re always the problem.
If you’re in a relationship you think that you’re the one screwing it up, that the reason it’s just not working out is all because of you, but that’s most likely not the case. The most important factor of a failing relationship isn’t necessarily who’s to blame, it’s whether or not the two of you want to work on it, or leave. Pointing fingers won’t solve your relationship issues.
If you’re single you think maybe the reason you haven’t found love is because you don’t deserve it, that you’re not good enough for love, or it’s too good for you. That is not true so stop believing it, and as soon as you stop believing that, love might find you.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
The thing that’s really wrong with your love life right now is, you feel lonely.
If you’re in a relationship, you don’t feel like your partner is putting in enough effort or giving you enough attention and it’s making you feel like you’re alone. The best way to solve that is to talk about it. Tell them what’s wrong, because they won’t know how they’re making you feel until you tell them.
If you’re single, you’re craving a companion. You don’t expect anyone to sweep you off your feet, you just want someone to sit on the couch with and watch a movie, you want someone who will lean over and look at you like you’re the prettiest thing they’ve ever seen, and then offer you the popcorn bowl and ask if you want more.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
The thing that’s really wrong with your love life is, you feel trust is lacking.
If you’re in a relationship, you feel like you don’t have complete confidence in your partner, and in their loyalty to your relationship. You question whether they want someone else, someone who’s completely different from you, and it makes you question whether or not they’d ever cheat on you to find it. Don’t let those emotions get the best of you.
If you’re single, you feel like anyone you date is just not worth a relationship. You feel like you’re only meeting people who you know would screw you over, and ultimately waste your time. You don’t feel like dating someone who’s going to break your heart. You’d rather be single.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
The thing that’s really wrong with your love life is, you’re far too impatient.
If you’re in a relationship, you’re completely dedicated to it, and you want to take things to the next level soon, even if you’re not completely ready. Take some time to think about it. The only thing rushing you is your own impatience.
If you’re single, you just want to be in a relationship already. You’re tired of waiting for Mr or Mrs. Right, and you think that’s a load of bullshit anyway. Don’t look desperately for love, but put yourself in a place where you’re open to accepting it.
(December 22nd to January 20th)
The thing that’s really wrong with your love life is, you just don’t really have time for it.
If you’re in a relationship, you find it all difficult to balance. You don’t want to make your partner feel like they’re not a priority, but you have things in your life you want to accomplish that aren’t your relationship. Do the best you can. Try to include your partner in your life as much as possible. Make them a part of the things you’re trying to balance. Your relationship and your ‘life’ don’t have to be two separate worlds.
If you’re single, your ‘I’m so busy worrying about other things’ is making you completely oblivious to any romantic opportunity that presents itself to you. You’re not ‘too busy’ for love, you just don’t feel like trying, or worse getting hurt.
(January 21st to February 18th)
The thing that’s really wrong with your love life is, you feel like love will deplete your independence.
If you’re in a relationship, you feel like you’ve lost yourself while in it. Your relationship has made you forget what’s most important to you, and you haven’t been doing the things that motivate you, the things that fill your life with energy and passion. Just start doing them. Don’t forget who you are and what you care about.
If you’re single, you’re afraid that a relationship will make you too dependent on someone else. You’re worried that you’ll get too comfortable and not be able to do anything on your own. You enjoy being on your own, you have a sense of pride of being able to be alone without feeling lonely, and you’re scared a relationship will mess that all up.
(February 19th to March 20th)
The thing that’s really wrong with your love life is, you’re putting yourself in the center of everyone else’s problems, and you’re giving everything you have to fix them.
If you’re in a relationship, you feel your partner’s pain like it’s your own, and you just want it to go away. You want all of their worries and problems to disappear, and no matter how hard you try, it just doesn’t work. It’s because you can’t make their problems disappear like magic. They have to work on it on their own. You can’t fix them if they don’t want to fix themselves first.
If you’re single, you put yourself in the center of other people’s problems so you don’t have to worry about your own. You’re good at being there for people when they need you. You’re a shoulder to cry on, but what about when you’re the one who needs to shed a tear? You’ve been trying to make everyone else who’s sad feel happy because you’d rather fix their sadness than your own. You deserve to be happy, and you deserve to tend to your problems when you need to. Take some time for yourself, and no one else.