How You’re Holding Yourself Back From Having The Life You Really Want (Without Even Noticing), Based On Your Zodiac Sign

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(March 21st to April 19th)

Your patience (or lack thereof).

You are energetic and always up for a new challenge, but you have to be just as willing to finish the challenge as you are to start it. Change won’t always happen instantly, it usually takes time. Be patient and don’t give up when things get tough or boring.


(April 20th to May 21st)

Your inability to roll with the punches.

You’re not good with change. You like things that feel comfortable, but sometimes to get the life you really want, you have to take chances. Don’t be afraid of change and don’t be afraid of stepping outside what you already know. Be flexible and understand that the moments you grow as a person don’t usually happen inside your comfort zone. Sometimes the most growth you experience is when you’re completely out of your element.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

Your inability to make a decision and stick with it.

You’re indecisive and when you feel pressured to make a decision, you shut down. You don’t know what you really want, which is what’s holding you back from getting it. Stop thinking about what everyone else has, or what everyone expects or wants from you. Focus on yourself, and you’ll be closer to figuring it all out.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

Your need for security and comfort.

You’re afraid to leave the things that make you feel content, and you’re missing out on the things that could make you feel wonderful. You’re fine with settling for a life that just feels okay because okay is all you need, but what about what you want? It’s great to have a secure job or relationship or whatever it is that’s making you feel safe, but are you happy? Think about that.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

Your worry about what everyone else thinks of you.

You want people to like you, but you need to realize that to have the life you want, you can’t care so much about what everyone else thinks. Some people in your life may not approve or favor all of your decisions, but you’re not living life for them, you’re living it for you. Stop worrying so much about being liked, and worry more about what makes you happy.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

Your insecurity.

You like to question yourself and your capability, but if you don’t believe you can do it, you won’t feel any motivation to. You tend to think you don’t deserve the good things that happen to you, but you do. Every good thing that’s happened in your life has happened because of something you did, whether it was the choices you made or the hard work you completed. You deserve good things, and your insecurity will only hold you back from having them.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

Your inability to confront people.

You’re kind and caring and fair, but you can’t let people walk all over you. People feel your kindness and the arrogant ones try to take advantage of it, but you can’t let them. Confrontation shouldn’t be avoided when you feel completely disrespected. You’re holding yourself back because you’d rather let people wrong you, than stand up for yourself and correct them.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

You’re jealous of what everyone else has.

Just because he or she has it, doesn’t mean you should have it too. You don’t have to want the same things that everyone else wants, and you don’t have to live life for anyone but yourself. Don’t worry about what everyone else has, and don’t feel pressured to have it when they do. There’s no time constraints on living the life you really want, don’t let other people or social media make you feel that way.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

You think the universe will magically make it all happen for you.

You believe in fate and destiny and you want to go wherever life takes you, but sometimes you need to take control in getting what you want because the world won’t magically do it all for you. You can travel the world and go on adventures, but you have to make your own decisions and take responsibility for the ones that weren’t made well. Your optimism is one of your biggest strengths, but it can also hold you back when it makes you expect things that are unrealistic.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

You constantly expect the worst.

You’re always prepared for the worst-case scenario, which is fine, but sometimes you make the worst happen simply because you expect it to. Your thoughts affect your actions and it’s hard to achieve something even when you do believe in yourself, so the fact that you don’t is making everything more difficult. Make your life easier and just start believing in yourself.


(January 21st to February 18th)

Your inability to trust the people who genuinely want to help.

You have trouble trusting people who want to do nice things for you because you have trouble understanding why. You think they have a secret motive or that there’s malice behind their good-nature. When someone offers a helping hand, don’t be afraid to take it.


(February 19th to March 20th)

You make your life out to be way worse than it actually is for attention.

You fail in attempts to make other people feel sorry for you, and then the only person who feels sorry for you is yourself. Your life isn’t going to get better from you whining about how miserable it is. Your life will get better when you decide to make it better, and that means quit complaining and take action. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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