12 Honest Men Reveal The Real Reason They Came Clean About Cheating (Even Though They Didn’t Get Caught)

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1. “It was wrong that I did it, but the only right thing to do afterwards was to tell her I did. In a way it felt like my own messed up redemption.” —Brendan, 26

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2. “I think the general rule of thumb is if it doesn’t mean anything, don’t tell her, but I think the guys who say that don’t actually know what trust is. Even if it didn’t mean anything, it still happened. I prefer honesty over everything else.” —Mark, 25

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3. “I asked myself whether I would want her to tell me if she cheated, and the answer was yes. So I did.” —Jason, 26

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4. “I told her because I realized I completely fucked up and that she was the only girl I wanted to be with, ever, and if it’s going to be forever I don’t think there should be any secrets.” —Max, 24

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5. “I wish I didn’t because it was ultimately the reason that she ended our relationship, but if I kept it from her it would’ve affected my behavior in every aspect of our relationship and then it probably would’ve ended anyway.” —Tyler, 27

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6. “Trust is everything, and it takes a really strong person to overcome infidelity. I cheated on my wife before we were married because I took her trust for granted. I told her, and she decided to forgive me. I now understand and appreciate every ounce of trust she has in me, and I’ll never take it for granted again.” —James, 28

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7. “I think she already had an idea that I was cheating anyway, and it was making everything really tense. After I told her, even though it hurt her, I think a weight was lifted off both of our shoulders.” —Bobby, 25

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8. “I think once you cheat you’re already being so dishonest that you owe it to your partner to tell them. If you’re going to do a scummy thing like that, you become that much more scummy when you continue to lie about it.” —Len, 25

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9. “I’d rather tell her myself than have her find out unexpectedly, or from someone else. I felt like it would be less painful if she heard it from me first.” —Garrett, 26

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10. “It was never my intention to hurt my girlfriend, and if I could go back in time and never do it, I would, but I can’t. I know guys always say it meant nothing, but it really did mean nothing, which is why I told her, because if it had meant something I probably never would’ve came clean about it.” —Antonio, 25

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11. “I wasn’t lying by not telling her because she never asked, but that’s because she didn’t think I would ever do something like that, and that made me feel really bad, because I didn’t think I’d ever do something like that either, but it was a mistake.” —Will, 27

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12. “She was the type of girl who deserved to know. She’s also the type of girl who deserves a guy who doesn’t cheat on her, and that’s what I told her.” —Harrison, 26 TC mark

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