8 Things All Girls Who Are Absolutely Terrible At Accepting Compliments Can Relate To

Natalie Allen
Natalie Allen

1. It’s not that we don’t want to accept your compliments, we just don’t believe what you’re saying.

We want to, but we just can’t. Tell us we have a beautiful smile and we’ll ask you how many girls you’ve told that to in the past three days. You might be a wonderfully genuine person who means everything you say, but that doesn’t mean you’ll be able to get us to accept your compliment.

2. We give out compliments, but can’t take them.

We’re not afraid to tell other people how fantastic they are, but when they return the favor, NOPE. “You look awesome tonight!” we say. “Thank you, so do you!” they say. “Ew no I don’t.”

3. Not accepting compliments must mean we have low self-esteem.

We can come off as self-deprecating when we refuse to believe you think we’re pretty, but our self-esteem isn’t necessarily in the toilet, our trust in other people’s opinions is. We don’t think we’re the worst people on earth, we just think you’re lying when you tell us how great we are.

4. And we must have no self-acceptance.

In today’s world it’s hard to find someone who fully accepts every part of themselves. So technically we’re not alone. There are parts of ourselves we love, we’re just terrible admitting it to those who point them out.

5. Significant others get frustrated.

If you can’t accept a compliment from someone you love, who can you accept a compliment from? Basically no one. Significant others will try and try again, until they become so tired of us refuting their praise, that they give up entirely, and then we become offended when they no longer compliment us. It’s a vicious cycle.

6. Hitting on us is impossible.

Ever try to hit on a girl who can’t accept compliments? We feel bad for you when you try. You’ll tell us we look great and we’ll reply with how fat we feel in the outfit we’re wearing, and then you’ll have no idea what to say next, so you’ll probably walk away.

7. Eye rolling happens often.

When you feed us compliments we roll our eyes, not because we think you’re annoying, but because we physically don’t have the ability to smile and say, “thank you.” It’s a good thing our parents were lying when they said our eyes would get stuck like that. *Eye roll*

8. We’re told we really should learn how to accept a compliment.

As if that helps us to accept them. Just because you tell us to do something, doesn’t mean we will. Chances are the more we hear this, the more refuting of compliments we will do. TC mark

Nicole Tarkoff

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  • http://voluptuouscara.wordpress.com Cara

    I have trouble accepting compliments. My mother always told me how I wasn’t good enough, wasn’t smart enough, wasn’t thin/ladylike/pretty enough. When I was ten, my maternal grandfather told me I was beautiful, and then he got on top of me.

    So I learned to associate being told I was beautiful with people wanting to get over on me. And I decided to just never believe anyone who tells me I’m beautiful (or anything else nice).

    • http://indepthwoman.wordpress.com indepthwoman

      Sorry to hear that. My father treated me horrible, always talking about my body. whenever anyone complimented me, the always wanted something and it was sex. A compliment could fly right over my head.

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  • FofoFl'or

    haha i totally relate i don’t accept compliments and i rarely say thanks it’s always awkward!

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