My Ex-boyfriend And His New Fiancé

Since most of the past 3 months have been plastered all over Facebook and talked about to seemingly everyone but me, I feel like a lot of things have gone unnoticed. I feel like a lot of people have been reacting in a very negative way and in turn, when things are being discussed in such a way, it makes others think that these opinions and reactions are a reflection of my own. They are indeed not.

It’s unfortunate that only a select few people have taken the time to actually speak to me, to my face, to ask me how I feel about everything before assuming that other peoples’ emotions are based off of mine. That has been the most annoying part of this entire situation. People that I don’t even talk to or hang out with sending me “information” and questioning me even when I ask them not to, people projecting their own insecurities about everything onto me, and the people who listen and think that I must be feeling that way too. I can’t even imagine what has been discussed about me behind my back throughout all of this, by acquaintances and also by people that are supposed to be my friends. But, the reality of the matter is — I don’t care what you think about me. Your opinions are not facts, and what you say about me (or the other people involved) actually says more about you…

I think for someone who has recently had to give up her pets, move, lose friends and go through a first break up all the while having the very new and sudden relationship of my ex-boyfriend blasted in front of me and the public eye on a constant basis, I am doing a pretty good job at keeping my head up and being positive. Make no mistake; this post is coming from a very positive place.

I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a few months ago and he got engaged this weekend.

I was in shock and hurt when I first heard the news, not because I wish it were me or because I wish I was getting engaged to someone… I was shocked because this person that I used to know, this person that I spent over 5 years of my life with, is actually a total stranger to me now. I don’t care who you are, that is something worth being upset over. I thought about it for a day, I slept on it and when I woke up my hurt went away. Coming to terms with the realization that I maybe didn’t know this person at all really puts into perspective the choice that I made to walk away from the relationship, in a totally positive way! You always have a bit of doubt when you make such a huge life choice. That is human nature. I am now absolutely sure that this was the best thing I have ever done — for the both of us.

So if you are reading this, [and let’s be honest, I’m sure one of you is reading this ;)] I am truly happy for you. I always have been and always will be a firm believer in fate and true love. Everybody deserves to experience true love and ultimate happiness at least once in their lifetime. Kudos and good luck to you both!

There is no way I can be mad about someone else’s love and happiness. What kind of person would that make me, or you? I am happier than I’ve ever been in my whole adult life and I think everyone deserves to feel this way. I also can’t wait until I meet the right person to share this happiness with. Until then, I am in the best relationship I have ever been in… a relationship with myself, and contrary to popular belief, I love every minute of it. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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