What Guys Really Want

Day in and day out, I hear (or read) women asking what men want in a woman, or out of a relationship. So hold on to your chairs as I’m about to reveal some simple truths about us. As much as id like to think there is, there’s really nothing special about me. I’m just your average guy looking for the same things that every other average guy is looking for. There is some minor truth to your self loathing, and sometimes gaudy, major magazines such as Cosmo, but i wouldn’t pay any mind to those.

I have read some of the articles in Cosmo and have found that they preach to women that were ugly, cheating, sex-crazed dogs, but I for one would mark that as a false statement. I have found myself more attracted to talent and intelligence over sex icons. In a world run by sex advertisements and just a generally unfit image in which women need to strive for in order to get a good guy, intellect and smarts seems to be rare, at least in my generation. What it comes down to if you want to find a loving and caring guy is a decent self esteem. We are attracted to confidence in the same way you are. However if your confidence is so high that your “ego” has become everything in your life, its an instant turn off to most.

Take care of yourself. Eat right and work out every now and then. I’m not saying that I’m shallow and only go after women with perfect bodies, all I am saying is take care of your body and mind. Taking care of yourself breeds confidence and self respect, and we love that about you. It makes you an all around happier person. Believe it or not, you do have to sell yourself to me. And it is a lot easier to do that if you look and feel good.

We love to treat you to niceties, let us, because obviously we think you deserve it and we want you to feel special and wanted. I know that i like to treat my significant other to dinner or a date every now and then, but we also like to feel special and wanted every once in a while too. Don’t cross that off your list as something only guys should do for girls. Treat us to an action movie or cook us dinner. Those actions go a lot further than you think.

We aren’t all sex crazed but we do enjoy sex. Especially passionate sex. Surprise us sometimes with some sexy lingerie or even initiate the sex. We will remember it and might even return the favor 10-fold. I know i would. On second thought, let me rephrase that. We love affection. It shows us that you are as into us as we are you. It doesn’t have to be over the top, just kisses and surprise us by wrapping your arms around us from behind etc. We love it.

And last but not least, COMMUNICATION. Communication is key to any relationship and not communicating will destroy a relationship faster than anything. Our world is evolving faster than we can blink and in the midst of an electronic boom, it is incredibly easy to text or call without even as much as moving a finger. Amazing. We love hearing from you. It tells us you care and helps put our minds at ease. Yes, we do get jealous sometimes and let our minds wander.

That’s really all i came up with. I know, pretty simple right? That’s because it is. it’s pretty much the golden rule. That’s all i really ask for from my love interests. If your guy is asking for way more than that then it might be time to lose him. there are good guys out there but you gotta open your minds and give them a chance. That’s all for today. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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