1. Don’t ever fake yourself.
This, I consider, is the golden rule of friendships. Because to be truly friends with someone, you have to be real to them and with them. You have to be purely yourself with no filters and no covers. Just you.
Because for someone to understand and love who you really are, you must not pretend of being someone you are really not. You must let them see what kind of person you are. No lies. No masks. And I promise you, if they are worth it as your real friend, they will take you as you are.
2. Talk. But don’t forget to listen.
It is important that you have to know who they are, too. Not just the other way around. Don’t settle with knowing the basics. Learn what he or she is really up to. Discover their dreams. Listen to their stories. Know them by heart.
Because sometimes, it takes gradual stories from the both of you – either similar experiences or different perspectives of things will bind you. And sometimes, it doesn’t take much talking as it takes much listening.
3. Be nice to people.
Not just to those who you want to be friends with. Or not just to those who you are already friends with. Be kind to people and give them your heart. They may choose to break it or they may opt to build it. But either way, each of us in this world, good or bad, has something in our lives that makes us break down at any point. We need to accept the fact that it is not just us who are keeping ourselves still through the storms. They are even others who are fighting with worse earthquakes that are shaking their lives and breaking their grounds, literally and figuratively. It is not just us living in this world and we are all just living dots striving to make some marks.
4. Life is beautiful. Take that by heart.
When you’re a positive person, it’s not really that difficult to attract and befriend people. When you are optimistic in this world and look at things like they could just get better and not worse, then it will be easier for you to find yourself some people to cherish. This is one of the secrets to live by. As scientist Newton stated in his third Law of Motion, “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” As for this life, when you release good thoughts and good vibes, you also let the universe bounce them back to you. Karma can be such a harsh thing but the choice is always on us.
Be nice to the world and notice it being nice to you, too. Smile like the world is the most beautiful person you’ve ever seen and you fall in love with it every time you wake up and go to sleep. Be excited with discovering new things every single day of your life and learn from these things. Live like the storms can never put you down, like everything will just pass and you don’t want to miss any moment of it.
Finally, remember that when you smile, people will, more or less, be attracted to you like a magnet attracted to a metal. And that little curve in your face also captures beautiful things in life, memorable things in this world. It’s actually amazing how that one little curve is freer than anything in the world, and can be produced so effortlessly by our muscles. So I suggest you start now, not just because you want real friends, but because you want to live a healthier, happier, and better life.