10 Essential Pieces Of Advice For The Lost Souls Of All 20-Somethings

1. Lose the guy or girl who does not want to be committed to you.

You will waste so much time on this one person who refuses to be your boyfriend or girlfriend because of some bullshit excuse. RUN. Find the person who is proud to hold your hand in public. You deserve to be shown off.

Say “I’m sorry.” Admitting you are wrong can be really tough but it will help avoid so many unnecessary arguments. Swallow your pride and save yourself a lot of heartache down the road. We are not perfect and it’s okay to admit when we have messed up.

2. Sex.

When you are in your 20’s, life can be crazy and spontaneous. Don’t let poor judgement in the bedroom affect your future. AKA, babies! And to be perfectly honest ladies, many guys will not stick around. Statistics show, these relationships will turn to mush because you hopped in the sheets too quickly and didn’t stop to ask where he plans on being in 10 years.

There is nothing casual about casual sex anymore. Do not end up ruining your future and having to deal with a douche bag whose sperm is the only thing he gave you in the end…

3. Marrying your best friend does not work.

I became engaged to my best friend when I was 27. We both thought the relationship was going to be easy because we knew each other so well. I learned quickly that “marrying your best friend” was never good advice. There is an importance in dating and giving someone you do not know the opportunity to become not only your best friend but partner in life.

The fun times are great but the rough patches are what truly let you know you are with the right one. Life is hard. A best friend is wonderful but everyone has one. Your partner in life will be your best friend but they also become your soul, your heart beat, your insides. Don’t jump to marry. Make sure you find someone who you can truly do life with.

4. Speaking of marriage, the best piece of advice anyone has ever given me was to marry someone who you would want your son or daughter to become.

Marry a mentor for your future children, someone you are proud they look up to. If you would not want your children to be like the person you are dating, you know there is something extremely wrong.

5. Put on SPF.

Period. I promise you will thank me later.

6. Help your parents learn new forms of technology.

Yes, they will always be behind due to the fact that they did not learn how to use an iPad at age two like the upcoming generation. But help them when they ask. They just want to learn more ways to be involved in your life. You are not a teenager anymore and they are not using it to spy or ground you for the week. They just want to know another way to communicate with you. Don’t get pissed because they love you so much.

7. You may not know what you want to do or be in life, but actively seek it.

I graduated from college with a degree in Education, taught high school for one year and knew it was not for me.

8. You never know where life is going to take you.

Actively seek to find what you love. I have known people to sit around at shitty jobs through their 20s with no future and they become so far behind, they do not even know how to get out. It’s okay to jump around a little bit to seek other opportunities but always have an end goal in mind. Do not become lazy in your search. It will bite you in the ass down the road, I promise.

9. Laugh.

At every moment you can. As mentioned in #4, life is hard. The struggle is real. Laugh so hard you cry. Yes, you may have some wrinkles later from it but take my advice in #6 and you will still be beautiful.

10. Say I love you.

If you feel it, say it! And if anyone does not want to reciprocate, move on. This is true in all relationships. If you can still say I love you (and mean it); you have something worth fighting for. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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