12 Reasons Women Seeking Men With A Good, Stable Job Don’t Mean She’s A Gold-Digger

A woman who wants a financially secure man is not necessarily a gold-digger. In fact, most are not and it’s a common and unjust misconception. It’s pretty rare you’d find a girl who is willing to have sex with a guy she doesn’t have any emotional feelings for just so she can have some nice dinners and maybe a few shopping trips.
The definition of a gold-digger is essentially a prostitute. It’s a derogatory name that is usually unwarranted and definitely misused. And to guys out there, if you’re not making heaps of money, I wouldn’t flatter yourself that that’s all that she’s after. If it were, she could probably find richer. It’s important to her that you have a good job for one or more of the reasons I’ve come up with below.
Hopefully after reading them you’ll think twice about calling a woman the g-word.

1. A Guy With A Good Job Is More Likely To Commit Than One That Does Not.

Until a guy has a real career for himself, he’s not really ready for real commitment. He has to prioritize his life goals. First comes a career, then marriage, and then maybe babies. Part of marriage is having a financial partnership and men are designated through normative gender-roles to be the primary bread-winner. These societal pressures create a heavy feeling of responsibility for men to be able to take care of their woman, especially if push comes to shove and things get rough. This need to be the man of the house discourages men from tying the knot when they are not making “man of the house” money. Also, not being able to afford a ring will definitely post-pone getting a ring. So it’s not so much that women want to be spoiled or taken care of necessarily, but they risk having a dead-end relationship if they seek a guy who’s got a long way to go in their career path. A man wants to be the man they want to be before they fully let a woman into their life.

2. Raising A Family Is Better With Money

If a woman is seeking to raise a family, being financially stable is extremely beneficial and will give the child a better life. If she is able to work from home, work part-time, or be a full-time mom, this will allow her to have way more parental guidance than if she were working a full-time job. Not only that, but having money will allow the family to live in a safer environment for her kids to play in, and they’ll receive a better quality public education being from a good neighborhood. Or better yet, they can go to private school. Not being financially stressed out makes for a better mommy and family dynamic.

3. Guilt

I personally cannot enjoy receiving a nice dinner out if I’m wondering the whole time if my date can really afford it. I’ll be thinking thoughts like, “Maybe I shouldn’t have ordered the steak,” or after seeing the bill, “Geez, will they be able to make rent?” Point is, if your boy is broke it puts a damper on going out when he’s treating.

4. Combining Assets

If a woman is making a lot of money, why shouldn’t she want a man that does as well. Together maybe they can buy a yacht. Is it really being a gold-digger if you’re contributing just as much? At that point it’s only fair. If a girl spoils a guy, wouldn’t she want to be spoiled back?

5. He Has His Own Place

Maybe a girl wants a guy with a good job because this means he probably has his own place. If she’s still living with her folks having a place to go to get it on is crucial. It’s awkward fucking under your parents roof, hotels are too expensive, and the car is just too risky and uncomfortable. Sex is mutually beneficial, and not gold digging at all. And even if she does have her own place, having double the amount of locations to choose from is always a perk.

6. White-Collar Men Are Educated

Education matters in a relationship because they should be able to relate better with each other if they have also gone through the process of receiving one. Generally speaking, educated people should be able to have better intellectual conversations if they were able to actually get something from it other than their job.

7. She Comes From A Family Of Traditional Values

Maybe the woman doesn’t care that her man is a car salesman, but she knows her folks back home will. Even though some car salesmen can actually make pretty good money, it just doesn’t scream Ivy-League college. Looking for a well-paid educated man might just be that she wants a guy she can take back home and not feel ashamed to show her parents.

8. Being Alpha Feels Unfeminine

They might not want your money, they just want you to make more money than them. It doesn’t feel feminine to be wearing the pants. Whoever makes the most money is generally the dominant one in the relationship. A lot of women aren’t as comfortable being the one who is in charge and would rather defer to their man.

9. A Well-Paid Man Is Tenacious

It might not be the yearly salary they are interested in as much as it is the fact that they are hard-working and persistent to have earned their job. These are desirable and attractive characteristics in a man.
A guy with a mediocre job or bumming it at home, even if he is smart, never fully applied himself. That makes him seem lazy, and laziness is a libido killer. Nobody wants a lazy sexual partner or domestic partner for that matter. Although the counter-argument is that a working man is too tired from a long day of hard work to be on top or do the dishes. However, even if they are not lazy at other things, a bad job still might make a girl think that they lack drive and determination. Two unattractive qualities.

10.  Bragging Rights

They may not want your money they just want to be able to brag about how much money you have to their friends. It’s not the most commendable reason, but it’s different than being a gold-digger. Girls think who they are with is in some way a reflection of themselves. So if you look really good, it makes them look better.

11. He’s Happier

If a man is in a shitty financial position, or stuck in an ill-paid job he hates, it’s going to stress, depress, and affect his self-esteem. Happy, positive people are generally preferred to mopey and negative. And if he’s happy, it’ll make it easier to make her happy.

12. She Abides By Tradition

It should be acknowledged that a woman’s domestic work is still work. I’m talking about cooking, cleaning, and all the other mundane crappy chores out there. Why should a woman do this for free? Her service comes at a cost. If she truly believes in the doctrine of traditional gender roles, then her doing her part makes it reasonable for her to expect that a man will do his. That being, bringing home the bacon.

If you’re not making the dough, don’t be hating if she says no. As shown above, there’s a lot of valid reasons she has the right to not be into you, especially when looking for a serious partner.
It’s not fair to simplify women into the category of gold-diggers, the second you are aware that they care about money. And why is a girl shallow unless she’s happy with a poor ugly guy? Every woman is entitled to having standards, money being one of them. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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