If You’re Only Going To Give Her Half-Assed Love, You Need To Let Her Go

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If you’re only going to give her half-assed love, you need to let her go.

Let her go so she can stop wasting her time with someone who doesn’t have her best interests at heart. Let her go because she deserves more than someone who plays games, who can’t make up his mind about her.

Let her go, because you know deep down you don’t really care about her.

Because if you really loved her, if you really cared about her, you wouldn’t be texting her at 2 a.m., letting drunken love notes stumble out of your mouth that you would never say sober. You wouldn’t be waiting until the last minute to make plans with her because you were too lazy to think up anything meaningful to do other than watch Netflix or get dinner at the same crappy 24-hour diner you always go to.

If you really loved her, you wouldn’t give generic responses to the problems she opens up to you about. You wouldn’t give one-word replies. If you really loved her, you would listen intently instead of scrolling through your phone when she tells you about her day.

Let her go because keeping her around because it’s convenient is just unfair. Don’t string her along because you’re looking for a confidence boost or someone to text here and there when you’re feeling lonely or bored throughout the day.

Let her go so she can find real love, a deep connection with someone who truly wants to put effort into the relationship. Who wants to commit to her.

Stop texting her when you’re lonely to keep her hanging on, to keep her heart open, to keep her hope alive. Stop asking her to hangout when no one else is available on a Friday night. Stop half-listening to her and stop messing with her heart and her mind.

Instead, grow up and be honest with her. Stop acting like what the two of you have is something more than it is. 

Because you know you’re not doing any of it for more than your own personal gain. You’re not doing it because you want her.

And sure, you may like her. She’s easy to like, after all, with a great sense of humor. She’s beautiful and smart and hardworking. She’s personable, sincere. You just don’t want to settle down. And that’s fine! But you need to leave her out of your uncertainty.

Because you aren’t giving her enough if you aren’t giving her your all. So, let her go because she deserves more than your half-assed love. TC mark

Molly Burford

Writer. Editor. Hufflepuff. Dog person.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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