Every word he has ever said to you is imprinted in your head. His anger and hateful words have you feeling numb. You don’t know what to feel anymore. You have gotten so used to his poor treatment that sometimes it doesn’t bother you that much anymore. It has become a new norm. You look at yourself in the mirror and all you see is a girl with no life in her eyes. You wake up every day and walk around like a lifeless body—nothing brings you pleasure anymore.
At night you lie down and hope that maybe tomorrow will be a better day. Sometimes when you close your eyes, you get glimpses of the happy girl that you once were. You know that she is still there, she is just lost in the madness that he has created.
You’re the girl that has forgotten her worth, but despite the emptiness that you feel inside, let me tell you that you deserve so much more than this.
It is time that you take the blindfold off and look at this relationship for exactly what it is—a living hell. Maybe you do not even realize it or want to admit it. He promised to take you higher so you could touch the clouds, but all he has done is bring you down to the underworld.
Open your eyes and see the harsh reality of your toxic relationship. If it’s bringing you more hurt than happiness, it is time to reevaluate the person that you are with and the situation that you are in. Feeling emotionally exhausted because of the relationship you are in is not fair to you, nor is it beneficial to your mental and physical health.
I know what you are feeling. I have been you before, and I know that in toxic relationships we get stuck in a fantasy world—we fantasize on how the relationship could be. We sacrifice ourselves, and we try to do everything we can to make it work, and the thought of leaving the fantasy world is nearly impossible.
We see the prince charming behind the monster. We want to be Belle in the story and transform the beast into a prince. But the truth is, you cannot change anyone if they don’t see their wrongdoing. You shouldn’t have to hurt or fight this hard for his love. Yes, I know that it can be hard to leave the person that once brought you joy. But darling, you deserve to be in a healthy relationship that is full of reciprocated love, support, respect and trust—not lying, cheating, belittling and fear.
I want you to know that you deserve so much more than this. Let me remind you of your worth. You are a beautiful woman that was lied to and made to believe that you were not enough, but you are enough—you have always been. The truth is, he was never enough for you. You are not defined by who you are with or who you were once with—the only person that determines your worth is yourself.
You deserve someone that will give you the kind of love that fills your heart with joy. You deserve someone that brings a smile to your face again. You deserve someone that quiets down the demons inside your head. You deserve someone that will heal your open wounds rather than pouring alcohol on them to make them burn more.
You deserve so much more out of your life. You are worth so much, and you deserve to be happy and healthy in your relationship and in your life in general.
Take time to get back in touch with yourself. Take time to heal and to find your happiness again. At the end of the day, it is much, much better to be alone that to settle for someone that doesn’t treat you right.
When you leave your toxic relationship behind, you will cross paths with people that will love you, cherish you and appreciate you just the way you are. There are plenty of people out there waiting to meet you and treat you right. Allow yourself to move on and be happy again.
To the girl that has forgotten her worth, just know that you deserve so much more.