20 Things That Happen When You Love Being Single

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There is something very freeing about being single.

I mean, yes, being in a relationship can be fun, but the reality is that being single can be better. Singleness is not as bad as some make it seem — being single is not a curse and being in a relationship is not a cure-all.

When you love being single you have a very empowering feeling. You learn that it’s a gift to be by yourself and that it takes courage and strength to face life alone. When you’re single, you also learn how to weather life’s storms on your own.

Here are 20 wonderful things you experience when you love being single.

1. You focus on you

When you love being single, you use your time to work on your biggest project: you. When you are single, you pursue your goals and work towards a more complete, fulfilling future. Love and finding a mate is not your main concern; instead of chasing after love, you are too busy chasing your goals and your future.

2. You won’t settle

When you love being single, you won’t rush to commit to anyone because you’ve got something really awesome going on with yourself. It will take someone amazing for you to want to include them in your life. You will not settle for anyone that tries to sweet talk to you or impress you. And if someone who captures your attention comes along, he would need to be at the top of his game in order to win your heart.

3. You do whatever you want

When you’re single, your schedule is completely your own. You get to do things on your terms and by your watch. You don’t need to answer to anyone and you don’t have attachments that are going to interfere with your plans. You can come and go as you please, go to dinner when you want to, stay at home when you want to or you can pursue interests and hobbies that you’ve always wanted to try.

4. You have a great relationship with yourself

When you love being single, you have a very personal and healthy relationship with yourself. You learn that you can count on yourself, provide for yourself, and can even make yourself orgasm too. There’s nothing more exciting and fulfilling than the relationship you have with yourself.

5. You become a better version of yourself

When you are single, you don’t have distractions from a relationship. You have the advantage of your life to develop yourself in all aspects — mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

6. You are whole on your own

When you love being single, you realize that you have an identity and that doesn’t involve being one part of a whole. You realize that you don’t have to have a romantic partner to feel complete. You’re already whole. You’re already complete. Being single lets you focus on finding a partner that complements rather than completes you.

7. You know what you want

When you’re single, you find out what you really want with no romantic distractions to stop you from learning what you want from life and love. You have the time to figure out your dislikes and what makes your heart beat faster. When you know what you want, you will not accept anything less than what you deserve.

8. You are more confident

When you love being single, you build confidence and become completely content being on your own. You realize that personal power is not about needing a partner.

9. You focus on friends and family

When you’re single, you can use your time to invest in close relationships and develop even stronger ties with them. Or you can use this time to meet new people and socialize with a variety of different individuals.

10. You play the field

When you love being single, you realize how much fun being single can be. You take full advantage of the ability to meet and get to know new people. You get to go out and date around whenever possible. There are lots of people out there and finding someone who is the perfect fit for you will take some time, so in the meantime, you enjoy playing the field. When you are single, you get to pick and choose who to date — if one doesn’t work out, you can drop them and continue living your own life.

11. You learn your worth and build patience

When you love being single, you simply don’t want something that doesn’t meet your standards. You know your worth. You have the patience and persistence to wait for the perfect match that is perfect for you.

12. You love yourself

When you love being single, you learn that the only way you can truly love somebody else is if you love yourself first. You realize that nobody can love you more than you can love yourself and that a relationship won’t save you or fill some empty part of you.

13. You explore your sexuality

When you are single, you have the chance to try certain kinks that you really want to explore. Being single gives you a chance to find someone with the same sexual interests as you and try new things. Even if you aren’t having sex with a partner, you can still explore your sexuality solo — after all, no one truly knows your body better than you. There are so many things out there that can get the job done.

14. You heal alone

When you are single, you have the space to process what went wrong in past relationships and how it’s going to be done right in the future. You have the room to reflect and to let go of past mistakes and hurts. You learn that healing can’t be done for you by someone else. You are the only one that has the power to heal your heart and soul.

15. You learn things

When you are single, you don’t have someone to lean on to check your oil, cook your dinner, cut your grass, or do something around the house, and you learn how to do it yourself.

16. You are happy on your own

When you love being single, you are content being alone. When you are single and happy, you won’t depend on anyone for your own happiness.

17. You have opportunities

When you are single, you have more flexibility and freedom. You never know the adventures you could have, the people you could meet, and the exciting possibilities that can arise. You might make new friends, find new passions, or find yourself wanting to do things that you never considered before.

18. You are more attractive

When you love being single, you have a good vibe that others won’t be able to resist. When you’re enjoying your single life, following your passions, and having fun, you become that much more attractive, so don’t be surprised if a few suitors come knocking at your door.

19. You have a happier life

When you love being single, it’s all about you and what makes you happy. You take better care of yourself, you treat yourself with compassion and you put yourself first. You take this time to create the kind of life that will make you feel proud, happy and fulfilled. Doing these things make you feel happier in your day-to-day life.

20. You embrace being single

When you love being single, you are comfortable being this way. You embrace this time in your life. You’ve got it made and plan on keeping things this awesome for as long as possible. When you love being single, rather than focusing on a relationship you think about all the things that make you smile, the people you love and the things what makes your heart feel full. You realize that it is much better to be happy alone than miserable with someone else.

When you learn to love being single, you will see all of these changes in your life and you’re likely to find that you are changing and evolving as well.

Each day, you choose how you’re going to live the single life. You can either love it or hate it. But when you choose to love your single life, it means that you know that one day you will meet someone who will want you make you change your single status, but you are not in a rush.

 For now, you choose to live a happy single life. TC mark

Mitzi J Hernandez

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This is me letting you go

If there’s one thing we all need to stop doing, it’s waiting around for someone else to show up and change our lives. Just be the person you’ve been waiting for.

At the end of the day, you have two choices in love – one is to accept someone just as they are and the other is to walk away.

We owe it to ourselves to live the greatest life that we’re capable of living, even if that means that we have to be alone for a very long time.

“Everyone could use a book like this at some point in their life.” – Heather

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