It’s never great getting dumped. Especially when they guy decides to fall off your grid, citing “I’m not ready for a relationship and I wanna explore” and “let’s remain as friends” despite going all the way with you. When I mean all the way, I mean the wine & dine and meet the friends & family kind of shit.

Here are 4 songs to listen to when you got dumped and you need a reminder of why you’re still great and he’s the one losing out.

1. Breaking Point – Kerri Hilson

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Here’s where you look at yourself in the mirror and say “My love has a limit.” Some women just “tolerate too damn much.” Don’t be one of them.

2. The Worst – Jhene Aiko

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Take off the rose-tinted glasses and see the prick for what he really is. Be honest now, we all can spot the red flags better in hindsight.

3. Stupid In Love – Rihanna

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We’re all dumb in love. When we let our guard down, when things get hot and steamy, when we allow ourselves to be taken over “the dream”. Well that’s fine and part of the learning curve. We’re only stupid if we choose to not learn from it. As Rihanna says, “Never a failure, Always a lesson.”

4. Young, Single and Sexy – Rita Ora

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Give yourself 10mins to beat yourself up about it. We’re only human and therefore one the harshest critics are ourselves. Then go get up and do something. Take this time to recover and discover who you are again.