I Hate Hooking Up In Bathrooms

I’m just going to come right out and say it: I hate having sex in bathrooms. It is not sexy or exciting or spontaneous like everyone says it is. It is a pain in the ass. The only time I don’t hate it is when I’m blitzed out of my head, but when I’m like that I don’t hate anything, except maybe last call. Any other time, though, I hate bathroom sex. And it takes a lot to admit that, because saying you hate bathroom sex is like saying your sex life is at the thrill level of a statistics seminar. But that is a risk I’m willing to take. I am in direct violation of approximately three hundred Cosmo tips and as many sex advice manuals, and I don’t care.

Theoretically, I understand the appeal of the bathroom: it makes banging absolutely anywhere a fantastic possibility. Bars, coffeehouses, airplanes, hospitals… no bathroom-having establishment is off-limits. Endless options. Add that to the can’t-wait-til-we-get-home-gotta-have-you-right-now sensation, coupled with the exciting (terrifying?) possibility that your mom/ boss/ barista/ flight attendant could walk in at any time, and you have yourself a modern-day bodice ripper. Right?

Maybe. It all kind of depends on who you’re with. If you’re totally in love with someone, you’ll do it with them in a walk-in freezer if that’s what they want. On the other hand, if you’re banging someone you don’t like quite as much, and you’re any kind of self-aware, having sex in a bathroom is pretty awful.

For one thing, it’s gotten to be an incredible cliché. Remember when bathroom sex used to be naughty and taboo? That was when having sex outside the bedroom was considered naughty and taboo. In the 1800s. But now it’s just like… expected. Pick up any vapid magazine and it will urge you to “Make sure you stay on his mind all night — meet him in the men’s for a quickie!” or “Steam up her Sunday — hit her hot spot under the hand dryer!” and similar nonsense. If your girlfriend doesn’t like it from behind straddling a toilet, she’s vanilla. If she does, she might be the one. But the thing about bathrooms is, you’re not being as sneaky and seductive as you think you are: everyone knows what you’re up to when you take a buddy into the stall with you. And if they don’t know it then, they’ll know when you don’t exit it for the next twenty minutes.

Though having sex in a cramped public-ish place can be appealing in its own right, the one bathroom setback you can’t avoid is the fact that it smells like crap. Literally. I know, I know, the bathrooms at fancy upscale locales smell like fresh-cut summer grass. But that’s not where you’re likely to bang. You want it quick and dirty at The Trash Bar, whose signature scent is stale piss, squashed roach and despair. I don’t even stay in a bar bathroom long enough to fix my makeup, let alone have a worthwhile sex sesh. And unless you shovel a gram of blow up your nose beforehand or carry around a travel-sized bottle of Febreeze, the olfactory experience of almost any bar bathroom will make you lose not only your hard on, but quite possibly your liquor.

Add to that the fact that bathrooms are goddamn uncomfortable. No matter how big the bathroom actually is, there never seems to be enough space. Now I don’t know what this is like for men (I’ve heard you guys have an easier time with this), but girls, you basically have four nightmare options: on the toilet (“Could you spread a little wider?” “Nope, my knees are in the stall walls”), against the wall (better not have a significant height difference), on top of the sink (“Could you move up a little? The faucet is up my ass”), and on the floor (I hope no one actually does this). The problem is, by the time you’ve maneuvered your bodies into a position that isn’t horribly awkward, three of your friends are pounding on the door to make sure you haven’t passed out in there.

All of that aside, the biggest reason I hate having sex in bathrooms is because it makes me feel like an inconsiderate asshole. I know there are fifty people desperately waiting to take a piss and I feel bad for them, because I know all too well what it feels like to be in their position. I know how much it sucks to squeeze your thighs together for fifteen minutes in an everlasting line, gripping your beer in silent rage while you wait for some clueless weirdos to finish getting it on in one of two available stalls. I get all that, and I can’t concentrate on having an orgasm in the midst of a line of rupturing bladders. Just can’t.

So in lieu of the bathroom, how about we just have a couple shots and do it in your car later, windows down and everything? At least there won’t be anyone waiting to drive it and it’ll smell like Royal Pine. TC mark

image – smlp.co.uk

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  • chloeee

    I don’t think not wanting to have sex in a public washroom makes you boring or vanilla. It’s about self-respect, it’s so filthy, not to mention everyone will know what you’re doing in there, which is beyond embarassing.

    • victoria elliott

      absolutely humiliating right, i would shoot myself in the face if someone found out that i had sex lol

      • Walkerde13

        So when ur pregnant are u gonna kill yourself? Unless u are the virgin Mary, everyone is gonna know you had sex if you are preggo. Just sayin!

      • Ass Piss

         lmao how this walkerde13 motherfucker gonna be so dumb ahahaha straight RETARD

      • see em

        I meant embarassing as in everyone knows you have super low standards. Obviously.

  • Anonymous

    I don’t get the appeal of doing it in a toilet stall either and I think not wanting to do it in such a place doesn’t make you vanilla or boring. It just means that you respect other people. Unlike other public places, bathrooms are vital to everyone and it sucks that people have to wait just because someone couldn’t keep it in their pants. And they smell.

  • Ass Piss

    lmao how motherfuckers gonna post this article as if it’s a thought shit is straight GARBAGE

  • Kristinas2009

    Me and my bf had sex in a bathroom at a club. 2 minutes in to it we broke the whole damn sink! Of course it was ceramic so it shattered everywhere. when we left there was a line of about 8 people who were about to see our handy work. It was funny as hell but really kind of embarrassing. Needless to say we left that place asap and went to finish our fun somewhere a little more sturdy.

    • see em

      class act

      • Anonymous

        But her boyfriend’s cool? Wow, guys.

    • http://www.facebook.com/grc15r Gregory Costa

      You sound like a whore. 

      • Mila Jaroniec

        I’m sorry but I have to comment here. In no way does having sex with your boyfriend make you a whore. Women like sex too, get used to it.

      • http://www.facebook.com/grc15r Gregory Costa

        It’s all fun and games until someone breaks a sink.

      • Poop

        WHY ARE YOU SO FUNNY

      • Anonymous

        REALLY???

  • Asdf

    I hate reading about you hooking up in bars.

  • http://www.facebook.com/grc15r Gregory Costa

    So today I learned that sex on Skype and in bathrooms are bad ideas.  Thank you, Thought Catalog! 

  • GUEST

    Disabled toilets in clubs are way different. Heaps of space and nobody else goes in there.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=78000959 Kasey Baker

    uhhhh…  I was unaware that this is common sexual behavior… 

    You say you hate having sex in bathrooms the way I would say I hate having to pee in public bathrooms.

  • http://twitter.com/butchproblems Jess

    “You want it quick and dirty at The Trash Bar, whose signature scent is stale piss, squashed roach[,] and despair. ” — HAHAHA! Although I have not had bathroom sex, I enjoyed the imagery :)

  • Anonymous

    and ARE WE SUPPOSED TO CARE?

    • kaylee

      It’s called fun

  • Sara

    yup. ive done it on the floor… in a hostel… and it was gooood.

    • Ijustgoyouknow

      You’re not alone sister. Not alone. ;) 

  • Hrr

    hey author, remember when we had sex in a bathroom and people threw a roll of toilet paper at us?

    That might have been the single classiest thing I’d ever done.

    • Mila Jaroniec

      I believe it was paper towels

  • http://hotfemmeinthecity.wordpress.com/ natasia

     And if you are doing it in a lez bar then everyone knows, everyone hates you and I hope you liked the girl you banged in the bathroom because she’s the only one that will date you now.

    • http://twitter.com/butchproblems Jess

      Date? Really?  We’re lesbians — We talk, we drink, we f*ck, then we f*ck some more. 
      The bathroom line is the most likely place to find a one-night stand, or run into a previous one.   No one hates you for having a romantic quickie in the last remaining stall. Just hurry up.
        

  • Mambo Jambo

    Wow you girls are pure 100% whores! LOL! Fucking in the bathroom? And I quote ” banging someone you don’t like”. Girls you have no fucking idea that any men will fuck you? That’s why your total whores… Girls can fuck any time just put up a skirt and wait for the first dumbass to offer you a drink. Men on the other hand have to “play the game”, you know, be charming or interesting or rich or funny or good looking, that’s why he is called a “player”. You whores don’t have to do shit but drink the drinks and follow the guy right up to the bathroom. “ooh but how does having sex with my boyfriend make me a whore?” honey it does when it’s your tenth fucking boyfriend and not to mention the ones who weren’t your boyfriends…

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