Why Bottled Up Feelings Should Never Be Left Unsaid

Brooke Cagle
Brooke Cagle

One could consider feelings to be the most wonderful thing in this world. At the same time, it could also be the most devastating thing a person could ever experience. It’s even worst when those feelings are the ones left unsaid.

It is already a part of one’s nature to hide their feelings instead of saying or showing it. By doing so, regrets are suddenly starting to form and there is a lack of assurance. A close friend of mine, or rather we can consider as the apple of my eye, once told me, “Don’t stop ‘cause just don’t” when I asked him if I should already stop having feelings for him. It may sound redundant, but when you come to think about it, it actually makes sense. It’s basically telling me to don’t stop feeling something, especially when there is no reason for me to do so.

Quit denying and hiding your feelings, but rather learn to embrace and express it before you run out of time.

Expressing your emotions is easier said than done. Yes, it may be risky because for one, you might not get the outcome that you’re wishing for, and two, the whole idea of you doing it is just really scary. But darling, remember that the best things in life can’t be attained easily.

Your mind should be open to the idea that not every time things will go your way. But, what if it does? That is why you should learn how to take risks. Stop waiting for the right time because there is no right time; there never was. Just you.

Take the risk of expressing your feelings before it’s too late. You never know but you just might get everything you’ve been longing for ever since.

What if it doesn’t? Then go start locking yourself up inside your room, eat a tub of ice cream, and cry along to sad, romantic movies and songs all day. Darling, it’s completely alright to feel that way. But please don’t ever think that it’s already the end of the world. Also, don’t ever regret saying what you’ve been meaning to say just because you didn’t hear what you wanted to hear. Look at the bright side. At least you were able to gain new experiences.

Pick up yourself from where you left off and learn from these kinds of experiences. Through this, you’ll be able to discover more about your self-worth and that it is alright to not feel loved by others sometimes because at least you still have yourself to do that. Someday, things will finally go the way you want them to be. But that doesn’t mean that that someday is today or tomorrow or the day after that. It will just come. You just have to take your time to heal your heart.

After all the hardship and success you’ve experienced before and after expressing your feelings, you’re surely able to achieve a peace of mind. Throw all the “what if’s?” away because you’ve finally gotten the answers you’ve been searching for. You can finally stop overthinking all the “would have been’s” and “could have been’s” and move on to the next chapter of your life. Expressing your emotions may be the hardest thing in this world, but is very relieving to the mind, body, and soul.

Darling, it will all be worth it in the end. I promise you.

Please do say what your heart wants to say. Failing to do so might lead you to a life full of regrets. You wouldn’t want to spend 1/4 of your life thinking of all the things you should’ve done and said and drowning in all the “what if’s?” of life. You wouldn’t want to waste your time imagining conversations all over and over again when you can actually put it to life. I know how much it hurts to not get the outcome you’ve always been wanting. But what’s worst is when you’re not able to say what you truly feel and just locking it all up inside your heart and being bothered by it for a long period of time.

I know that you’re constantly seeking for answers to your questions; we all do. You don’t want to feel uncertain and you crave for assurance. But how will you be able to gain all of your wants if you won’t work for it? A way to be able to search for answers is by expressing your feelings. Tell them straight up what you’re feeling and all the questions you’ve been simultaneously forming inside your head. Stop yourself from assuming because nothing good will come from it. Assuming just makes you expect more for the best while disregarding the possible worst that may happen. Also, assuming will just prolong your agony.

Darling, just go for it already and say what you think needs to be said.

Lastly, express your emotions to avoid that feeling of dissatisfaction. You won’t just feel dissatisfied with the action you didn’t choose to take, but there’s also a chance that you would feel dissatisfied with yourself. You might feel that you are not enough and fail to recognize your self-worth. I don’t want you to feel that you don’t have the capacity to be able to say what your heart wants to say.

I don’t want you to feel that you’re not brave enough to tell someone that you love them.

I don’t want you to feel that dissatisfaction in yourself. I believe that you are a courageous person because you are still able to love and love despite all the hardship you’re going through. The idea that you are capable of loving someone who you are not yet sure if he has the same feelings for you makes you a brave person and I idolize you for that. Darling, you are so much more than your anxiety.

Now, the question lies within. Should you let go or just move on? Darling, I say both. Letting go and moving on were never an easy task to do but it is still doable. Letting go doesn’t necessarily mean that you would erase everything that you’re feeling. Same goes for the concept of moving on. Moving on doesn’t necessarily mean that you would forget everything that has happened in the past. But rather, you’re letting go of what you’re feeling by expressing it and moving on to the next chapter of your life while bringing with you your past because it is what makes you stronger. Letting go and moving on are similar to feelings. They both can be devastating but also, beautiful. Both takes time before you could finally master them. But rest assured, once you’re already capable of doing both, you’ve finally built a better and improved version of you.

Finally, you’re capable of loving and putting into actions what you feel without even thinking of the great unknown which lies ahead. I’ll leave you with something my Science teacher in high school told us before. He said, “Love until it hurts. And when it hurts, love some more. Love until you don’t care about the pain. Until all that matters is loving that person the best way you can.” Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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