The Only Way To Love Is To Love Hard

 Agberto Guimaraes
Agberto Guimaraes

I think we’ve all been there, right? We’ve met so many potential suitors who have broken our hearts that we’re simply afraid to be vulnerable. We’re afraid to be too trusting. We’re afraid to be too free with our emotions.

But it’s the energy of love that binds the universe together. Love is what breathes life into us and gives all living things this chance to be alive.

I decided, then and there, that I was going to actually allow myself to FEEL this relationship. If I truly believed that this guy was different, maybe he actually would be. Maybe he’d be the exception to the rule. And maybe, just maybe, we’d fall in love.

I threw myself into it. I texted him when I wanted to. I told him I liked him. I invited him to stay the night. I did all the things I wouldn’t let myself do before.

Loving hard is the only way to love. Anything else is a waste of time. Anything else just isn’t going to work, because you aren’t putting your faith into it.

When you’re loving hard, you’re doing more than loving. You’re having FUN. You’re feeling every moment.

When you go to hold his hand, you can literally feel the sparks between his skin and yours. When you’re kissing him on the lips, you start feeling weak in the knees. It’s exciting. It’s exhilarating. You feel absolutely alive.

Loving hard changes more than just your heart, though.

Loving someone hard changes other aspects of your life, too. It sounds cheesy, but you know when people say love makes the colors of the world brighter and the roses smell sweeter? It’s sappy, but it’s true.

If you say you love someone because of what they can give you, that’s not love, that’s selfishness. When you Love someone, it’s always from a place of overflow rather than lack.

When you’re loving without inhibitions, you’re living life exuberantly. Suddenly everything you do has more meaning. You have a spring in your step as you walk to work, and you listen to love songs and watch romantic comedies in a completely different way.

Life just means more because you have someone to share it with. It’s not that this other person completed you — you were already a complete person to begin with — it’s just that he or she has enhanced your life in a way you never could have imagined. All that heartbreak you experienced before just led you to this moment.

When you love hard, you have no regrets.

No matter what happens in our future, I’ll always know I did everything I could. I’ve tried my hardest to make this work. I won’t have any regrets down the line, even if we separate.

And that’s what it comes down to, isn’t it? When we commit to anything in our lives, we’re throwing caution to the wind and immersing ourselves in it, whether it’s a job or a person or a hobby. We’re feeling the thrill of not knowing what’s going to happen next. We’re embracing the unknown. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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