Modern dating is doing INFJ a disservice by glorifying almost relationships and non-commitment.
The truth is, the closure we get from others, will never make us feel better. It will never give us the push we need to move on.
Know that when a guy is into you, no amount of considerations or barriers can stop him from professing his feelings. No amount of intrinsic influence can stop him from making you his. Know that when a guy is into you, you just know it.