I know what you’re thinking, it sounds impossible, but trust me, it’s true. And, before you ask me how I can be happy in life when I A. have no one and I’m B. going nowhere, that’s not entirely the case. If there’s one thing I do have it’s dreams — dreams that stupid jobs have held me back from, and stupid boyfriends have too.
When I was in the wrong relationship and in the wrong work, I had so much anxiety over the future because I felt stuck in a place I knew I didn’t want to be. I’ve learned it’s settling that sucks the happiness out of you, and obviously enough, empty relationships don’t fulfill a thing.
As people, we all have our routines we get into, but the important thing to remember is not to get lost in them. Don’t stay in a relationship because you’re comfortable. Don’t wake up everyday and go to a job that you hate. For me, having the relationship I had, and the job I had, was what made me feel like I A. had no one and was B. going nowhere.
When something isn’t right for you, let it go. Don’t be a person who wishes they could have something better — go out and get it. So many people say “I wish I had someone who treated me that way” or “I wish I had a job I loved,” well why don’t you? Because you think you’re not good enough? Well, you are. Everyone deserves happiness and everyone has the chance to find it. If you have to shake up your whole life to do so, do it anyway. If you feel broken down, build yourself back up. If you’re not where you want to be, keep walking. You might not have all answers, and you probably won’t know exactly where it is you’re going, but if you don’t make that move you’ll never be one step closer to finding it.
Figure out what it is that you want and never stop fighting to get it. No matter how difficult things may seem, if you believe you’re capable, you are. Never stay somewhere just because you think you can’t go anywhere better, you can. Hold yourself high enough to know your worth and never let anyone question it.
I might not have all the money in the bank or the perfect person on my arm, but I’ve learned that none of that is as important as I once thought it was. Although I wasn’t necessarily happy in my old life, I was comfortable, and breaking out of that comfort zone was the hardest, but best move I could have ever made. The truth is that none of us know for sure where we’ll end up, but we do have control over where we stay. So, if you find yourself wishing you were somewhere else, don’t be afraid to rearrange your life for the chance to go there.