We all have those relationships, past or present, in which the other person constantly makes you feel bad about yourself. Maybe the other person takes their insecurities out on you. Maybe the other person does not recognize the beauty of the love you have given them. Maybe the other person emotionally abuses and takes advantage of you. These relationships have a way of decaying our confidence, independence, and self-esteem. We usually just stay in them because we are comfortable, scared, or too lazy to remove ourselves.
But there comes a point in these relationships, somewhere between devastation and acceptance, where you realize that you deserve better. You realize that you do not deserve these feelings of constant disappointment and betrayal. You finally realize that you are worthy.
You are worthy of friends who love and care for you in the same way you love and care for them. Having friends that you can rely on and cry to when you are upset is one of the most valuable things in life.
You are worthy of a significant other who appreciates and adores you. It may take some time to find the person you are meant to be with, and you may have to go through some trial and error along the way. But never settle for someone who treats you poorly or who always thinks about themselves before you.
You are worthy of a family who loves and supports you, even when you screw up. Especially when you screw up. It may take some time and effort to build solid relationships with your family members, but it’s worth it.
You are worthy of your own self-love. Because there is only one you, and there are dozens of things about you that make you unique and beautiful. Sometimes I’ve found this particular concept hard to grasp, but the more I learn to love myself, the easier it is for me to develop healthy relationships with other people.
Everyone, no matter what they have gone through or dealt with in the past, is worthy of respect, love, and kindness from others. When you realize that you deserve these things, you can appreciate the people in your life who do treat you right, and you can address the people who don’t—whether that means communicating your issues or cutting them out of your life. Life is too short to surround yourself with people who don’t realize how amazing you are.