Introversion is a topic that’s widely taken for granted and is overlooked in most societies. Whenever some people come across someone with an introverted personality, they immediately judge them as being too shy, withdrawn, insecure or possibly unfriendly. When contrary to popular belief, in a world filled with noise, introverts simply tend to extract their energy and recharge their batteries from mostly being alone.
As Susan Cain, author of “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking” put it: At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking, reading to partying; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over brainstorming in teams. Although they are often labeled “quiet,” it is to introverts that we owe many of the great contributions to society–from Van Gogh’s sunflowers to the invention of the personal computer.
There’s a great number of successful and extraordinary famous icons that you may not have known are introverts like: J.K Rowling, Bill Gates, Albert Einstein, Mahatma Gandhi, Emma Watson, and the list goes on and on.
And despite the stereotypes that say that introverts are extremely bashful and quiet, some are actually very talkative once you get to know them.
So, if you’re curious about whether you’re an introvert, or if someone you know is one, here are 25 signs to set things clear and help you understand what introversion is like. If you do most of these, congratulations, you’re one of 36% independent and brilliant people in the world.
1. It takes you time to get used to new people.
2. You rarely start conversations with people you don’t know and you prefer to not engage in small talk with strangers either.
3. On a table filled with people, because you’re silent most of the time, they assume you’re not enjoying their company.
4. On that very same table, because you’re not one to talk out loud, it’s hard to get people to stop talking over you and actually listen.
5. You’re more of a listener than a speaker, which usually results in not being able to keep conversations going.
6. Your idea of fun on a Friday night is some alone time, watching a movie, writing in your journal, enjoying a nice cup of tea … etc
7. You’d rather read a book or listen to music at home, than go to parties or merely “go outside”.
8. You don’t talk about yourself at all, unless someone asks.
9. Some conversations bore you to death, so you just sit there, saying nothing, daydreaming (which is always better than saying something rude).
10. You don’t do well with reading receipts on instant messaging apps. And have to try to guess the entire message without actually opening it so you wouldn’t have to reply to it right away.
11. You’re too awkward on phone calls and tend to avoid them whenever possible.
12. When someone tells you “let’s hang out this Saturday!” You’re totally fine with it, until Saturday actually comes.. And you curse yourself for agreeing to go out in the first place, so you keep praying that the other person cancels, so you wouldn’t have to. And if they don’t, you either come up with some clever excuse, or unwillingly end up going out after all (which usually turns out to be fun and not as bad as you thought).
13. You always don’t feel like leaving the house, until you actually do and thank god you did.
14. Then a couple of hours later, you decide you’ve had enough socializing for one day and can’t wait to go home.
15. In case you haven’t guessed already, socializing exhausts every atom of you.
16. You constantly wonder what people might think of you because you don’t talk too much.
17. When in fact, you talk and joke all the time, just with people you’re used to or feel comfortable around, or when a topic deeply grabs your attention.
18. People judge you based on your silence and think you’re “arrogant”, “smug”, or “antisocial”.
19. You feel nervous about speaking up in a room filled with people you don’t know.
20. Social Media overwhelms you sometimes what with people always expecting you to communicate, so you often tend to take some time off of it for a while.
21. As much as you like disappearing into the background like a ninja, other times you like being the center of attention same as everyone else.
22. You’re probably a very smart and wise person, because you don’t waste your time talking nonsense or gossiping.
23. You HATE being forced to interact. But love doing it only when you want to/feel like it.
24. Extroverts intimidate you, sometimes.
25. You observe and notice EVERYTHING, but you pretend you don’t because it’s more fun that way.