I stopped talking about this subject because of the ridicule I receive because of it. I am in my mid-20s and I have made up my mind since I was 16 years old that I want to be childless. I used to feel bad about it because everyone thought I was crazy. I do not feel bad at all. There are even famous celebrities who chose to be childless, including Oprah Winfrey, Betty White, Cameron Diaz, and even Condoleezza Rice. It is a big deal and a big decision. People have their reasons to be childless. I have my own reasons.
My dad never really pressured me about it, but he always believes that I would change my mind. Even my exes thought I would change my mind. I have been cheated on and broken up because of my decision. Again, I was told I was selfish. To me, I believe that we live on a dying planet slowly being ravaged by the sheer weight of humanity. The pressure of creating new life is still prevalent. People say things like: You won’t know how much you’ll love having a child until you have one. Come on, why would you say this? It is like telling a sociopath to just murder someone.
Here’s the deal. I have no intention to create new life and I will not regret it. I took a good, long look at myself over a period of time and realized I just do not want children. I am not interested. The second reason is because we have enough humans in this world. In fact, we have millions who have been abandoned, use a place to live, and some food to eat. However, society overlooks these people as creatures of nothing. Yet, we continue to create life and some women are criticized for not wanting to create another life. Also, there are women who want children and cannot. I would donate my eggs so those women can have children one day. If for any reason, I want to have children, I would adopt because there are other children who need someone to take care of them.
A woman should not be criticized and what some fail to realize; it is a woman’s body. It is theirs and no one else.