It’s exciting to move in together, but once you’re under the same roof and spending every single night together, will your sex life land in the dumps?
It’s difficult to maintain romance when you have an idealized image of your partner, and then suddenly discover that they, too, have off-putting habits. So how can you keep your sex life hoppin’ once you’re sharing a bed full-time? Here are 3 simple ways to do just that:
1. Put in the effort.
Everyone needs to let their hair down and relax in their own home. BUT balance is key. Ask your partner what turns him off. While you may not be able to avoid everything your partner requests, you can make some adjustments. Your relationship with flourish if you happily compromise rather than taking such requests as an indication of how much your partner does or doesn’t love you.
2. Make sex a priority.
Because it isn’t just about orgasms — it’s also about intimacy. When you approach sex as a way to stay connected to your partner physically, emotionally and spiritually, performance anxiety falls away and is replaced by spontaneity and playfulness. And as long as spontaneity is present, sex won’t grow stale.
3. Mix it up.
It’s easy to fall into a routine, but if you succumb fully to this, it won’t take long before you start to become bored in the bedroom. So make a commitment to occasionally try something new. It can be as simple as switching positions or kissing a new place on your lover’s body. And DON’T be afraid to discuss your sexual fantasies. It will only prevent you from achieving full sexual satisfaction.
In fact, verbal communication opens up a whole new world of eroticism. If either of you is squeamish when it comes to talking about sex, just take it slow. Make an agreement that you won’t judge each other and never expect your partner to agree to something he or she feels uncomfortable trying.
If you look for common ground, you’ll find ways to keep your sex life hot—even though you’re sleeping in the same bed night after night.