Become The Change You Want To See

We’re all dismayed by the consequences and repercussions of change, but sometimes we’re so lost within these moments of change we’re short to realize the advantages and positive outcomes these changes bestow upon us. Sometimes even the negative outcomes, because even negativity can be beneficial.

Change is good, and sometimes bad—depending on the change itself, the circumstances and what’s going on within our mental state. Sometimes we’re not capable of knowing how to cope or handle these changes. But usually at the end of the tunnel, there’s a light and a tin-like, shiny silver lining.

Mental health plays a big part in change in my eyes—where we are within our mind controls the outcome and consequences. I’m a pro at change—in friends, in jobs, in residential location, in perspective. Whatever the change is, I’m a professional at it.

I’ve changed so much in my life time as a mid-life millennial. I’m 26, not a girl but not quite a woman either. I’ve seen more than most my age, and I’ve learned to deal with many disarraying outcomes. Nothing is ever easy, but nothing is ever impossible either. It’s taken me a long time to realize there’s a life full of possibilities—possibilities to make your own changes. Sometimes things have to fall out of line in order for them to fall in place. After all, once you hit rock bottom, there’s only one direction to go: up.

Be the change you want. We can’t sit around contemplating every outcome when we have to be the ones to control the outcome. We can’t control everything, but we can control how we deal with change and how we perceive it.

Everything is about perspective. Sure, sometimes life falls in the hands of fate or luck, but there comes a time where I believe we control our own fate and luck. Nothing is guaranteed, but we can at least try.

You are better than how you perceive yourself. Sometimes we don’t see ourselves the way our friends, family, peers or colleagues do—hell, sometimes strangers even see us in a light that we don’t recognize.

In life, there are always going to be obstacles, but we have to be the ones fearless enough to hurdle them. Conquer them. Tell them to fuck off. We’re all entitled to be down on ourselves occasionally, but every so often you have to get back up and dust that dirt off your shoulders.

We’re all human. And change is inevitable. Embrace it, for all its truth, beauty and ugliness. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Just a small town girl, living in a lonely world with a big ass voice to be heard.

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