Read This If You’re Having A Hard Time Getting Over Your Ex

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You thought you moved on. You stopped talking shit about your ex for a while.

And then one day your loss hits you in unexpected ways.

Then you begin to wonder what caused someone who swore on their lives that they would love you forever to walk away in a blink of an eye?

Is it even possible for you to ever forget your ex? Or maybe you intentionally let yourself dwell in the past so you can relive those sweet memories but trust me, one day, time will do its job and take them away from you. You will forget how they used to kiss you and touch you. You will forget their smell or even their face.

At least it was happy while it lasted. Tell yourself what you two had was real, that it was authentic love.

It, however, no longer exists. Your ex chose to walk away. You already lost him/her.

How long has it been since you two broke up? No one is going to throw a pity party for you anymore, your friends had enough of this ex-talk and you need to realize that the world doesn’t stop because of your heartbreak. 

As cliché as it might sound, just let bygones be bygones. Your partner decided to leave, respect that. It’s not like they didn’t think it through. Remember that they chose to give up on the relationship for a good reason.

Let me tell you, you should be grateful that they ended it now instead of months or even years later, so you still have chance to meet someone better, or at least, more compatible.

Get over it. I mean it. Instead of asking you to write a list of things that you hated your ex doing, write a list of your worst behaviors during the relationship. Reflect on them, learn from your mistakes, and move on.

Cry until you feel exhausted, stare at their pictures until your mind is full of their face. Then hold onto those memories and lock them down. I mean literally, move all the stuff that reminds you of your ex to somewhere out of reach, or even burn them if necessary. Out of sight, out of mind right?

Find someone worth loving, who will love you as much as you love them. Go on a binge, do whatever makes you feel better. Then pull yourself together and work on yourself, knowing that you will be a better girlfriend/boyfriend next time.

Well, I’m not going to tell you what others have been telling you, because the reality is you might never find another person who you fall in love with that fast — but at least now you can finally become someone you want to be. You can finally pursue your life goals and do whatever you want by putting yourself first.

Your next lover? They will probably appear when the time is right. Just be prepared.

One day, you will appreciate the cruelness of your ex because they turned you into someone better. Of course, it is okay for you to always love them. After all, there’s no sin in love. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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