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8 Things That Happen When You Stop Pretending To Be Someone Else And Accept Yourself For Who You Are

You give yourself the potential to grow.

When you stop pretending to be someone else and accept yourself for who you are, that’s when real growth happens. That’s where real change happens, too. When you stop pretending to be someone else and accept yourself for who you are, you’ll begin to develop a relationship with your own heart, and your own soul, and dig deeper into what makes you, you. It will be easier for you to name the things that you hope for, and wish for, and dream about. Things like job applications will become a bit easier. Things like dating will become a bit easier, too. There will no longer be any pretense about what you think “you’re supposed to be,” and you’ll begin the journey to uncovering who you are and where you hope to go.

You take better care of your body.

If you’re not into drinking, you won’t drink at the party, even if everyone else around you is toasting the night away. If you do not have sugar, you won’t care about what people say to you at family gatherings – you will gladly snack on your vegetables and hummus instead. When you focus on what your body needs, you won’t be as easily persuaded by peer pressure, and you’ll be happier, too.

You say “no” without guilt.

You don’t go to the party if you don’t want to go, and you don’t buy things that you cannot afford. You don’t feel bad for saving, or staying in, or spending time in situations that make your heart happy – even if everyone else is doing the opposite.

You cultivate your relationships on a deeper, more meaningful level.

When you stop pretending to be someone else and accept yourself for who you are, the word “no” will come out of your mouth with more ease. You’ll no longer worry about showing up for the sake of showing up, and you’ll learn to see that there is so much beauty when you pour your energy into reciprocal relationships. When you stop pretending to be someone else and accept yourself for who you are, you’ll gravitate towards humans who will lift you up in light and praise, people who will love you, and tell you the things you need to hear – even when you don’t want to listen to it.

You have more time for the things that light your soul on fire.

You won’t watch football games if you despise football – instead, maybe you’ll go for a walk, or join a yoga studio, or read a good book. Perhaps you’ll discover that you’re a genius in the kitchen. Maybe you’ll see that Pinterest is no match for your crafty ways. Whatever it is – when you stop pretending to like activities or hobbies just to fit in, you’ll see that there are plenty of things out there that will fill that creative space in your heart.

You can look inwards with more ease.

When you stop pretending to be someone else and accept yourself for who you are, looking inward becomes easier. When you’re honest with yourself, you can look inwards with more ease. And when you’re able to look inwards, you’re able to see where you are and make a plan for where you hope to go. Self-critique can be productive if it’s through a lens of love and honesty.

You know when to stay, and you know when to leave.

When you stop pretending to be someone else and accept yourself for who you are, it becomes easier to understand when to stay, and when to leave. You know what, and who, you’d like in your life – and you are willing to put the work in to make sure they’re there.

You’re able to stay present and soak in your blessings.

When you stop pretending to be someone else and accept yourself for who you are, you see your blessings. You love your blessings. You count your blessings, too. Soaking in your blessings of the moment doesn’t mean that you don’t hope for bigger things down the line. Appreciating what you have right now doesn’t mean that you tamper your dreams. It just means that you’re able to look around you with a clear head and heart, and delight in the things that you do have – because they are there.

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