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There Is No Such Thing As The One That Got Away

The universe does not miss. There are no mistakes. There are no could have beens, should have beens, or would have beens.

There is no such thing as the “one that got away,” because the person that is meant for you will not get away.

The things that are meant for you in this life will not miss you. They will not escape you. And they will not find you at the wrong time. It really is that simple.

I know what it feels like to wonder what things would be like if you had done something differently. I know what it feels like to overanalyze every single text, every phone call, every conversation, every word.

I know what it feels like to wonder what would happen if you would have given it one last shot, one last chance. Maybe things would have turned out the way that you wanted them to.

They wouldn’t.

If you had reworded that text, they would have left.

If you would have said that one last thing you’ve been dying to tell them, they would have left.

If you would have been less open with your heart, less vulnerable, less caring, they still would have left.

If you had held back your feelings just a little bit more, they would have left.

You could have done every single thing differently and things would still turn out the exact same way, because the person that left is not the person that you are meant to be with.

That is a harsh statement, but it is also an incredibly comforting and empowering statement. You know that in your heart of hearts, there is not a single thing that you could have done differently to change the outcome.

You did everything right. You did every single thing right. Do not ever question that.

There is absolutely nothing that you could have done to make them stay, because the universe knew something that you did not. I know that’s hard to see right now. You don’t have to like it, and you don’t have to understand it, but all you need to know is that it is true.

The right people will always find you at the right time. And they will stay without hesitation, without fear, without doubt. I need you to know that.

You won’t be too much for that person. You won’t be not enough for that person. You won’t stay up nights wondering what could have been or should have been, because things will just be.

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