1. We can’t have conversations in real life anymore
When we talk to each other in real, non-digital life, it’s rarely ever uninterrupted. Someone is bound to be on their phone, either texting or scrolling through their Twitter feed, instead of actually listening to what the other person is saying. It’s like our real life conversations are just the background music to our digital lives, and that’s just plain sad.
2. It’s okay to have important conversations via text now
Remember when a text message break-up was the worst offense you could ever make? I swear, now we have more important conversations via text — or Facebook or whatever online medium you want to choose — than we do in real life. We have “the relationship talk” (you know the one, don’t lie) and we fight and we explain how we actually feel via text instead of meeting face-to-face. I once got a text about a family member passing away. A TEXT. And it’s totally okay now, because everybody does it.
3. We don’t really need to try
Back in the day (a.k.a middle school), a boy actually had to call me — at home — to talk to me. And I remember sitting in my room, talking on the phone for hours after school. I guarantee my parents got mad and I probably ignored a few calls once call waiting was a thing, but I wanted to talk to some boy who thought I was cute. Once I got a cell phone (most of us didn’t have cell phones at age 5 then, surprisingly) in 8th grade-ish, that all changed. Now, a guy will text you for five minutes and that’s that. Do people even make phone calls anymore?
4. We know a lot less about each other… But also a lot more
Sure, we don’t spend hours on the phone with the person we’re interested in anymore. We don’t get to hear stories about their past or have mushy hopes-and-dreams chats right away. But now we can stalk each other on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram and every other form of social media there is. It’s possible to know all you need to know about someone by creeping through their Facebook profile and reading their tweets from the last two days. You can know, in five minutes, who their best friends are and where they work and when their birthday is. And that’s really freaky if you stop to think about it.
5. We have a million more things to get uselessly jealous about
Be honest. You’ve probably been in a relationship (or in that awkward not-a-relationship limbo) and gotten jealous about something you saw on Facebook. Maybe he became friends with that pretty girl from work or maybe she’s been chatting with that guy from her English class. It’s gotten ridiculous. I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard, “Who is so-and-so? How do you know each other?”
6. Your family knows everything
We all have that one family member that comments on your status with something like, “Hi! I hope everything is going well. Do you like school? How is work? Tell your mom that I say hi, okay?!” In addition to that, some of us really lucky people have the kind of family that monitors everything we post. My parents and grandparents call me within five minutes if I post something slightly unclear or sad or happy. “What does your status mean?” “Who is that boy in your picture?” “Are you going out too much? I think you’re going out too much.” Thanks, technology.
7. Our attention spans are literally nonexistent
Have you ever seen someone on their computer with only one tab open? Doubt it. When was the last time you watched a movie — A FULL MOVIE — with someone without them checking their phone? Not recently. It’s become nearly impossible to just sit and hang out or watch a movie. We have to also be texting or tweeting or reading random (ahem) articles. I’ll admit that I’m guilty of this too, and it definitely needs to stop.